his Ws mother seriously has it in for me

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Registered: 05-23-2008
his Ws mother seriously has it in for me
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Tue, 11-18-2008 - 7:01pm
OMG!!! we are not even having sex anymore but she really really is trying to get me out of the way. she thinks there are 3 people in the marriage. Ok so i understand she hates me for obvious reasons and just becuase we are not doing the dirty doesnt mean we never will again so i am always a threat to her daughter but why only have it in for me? what about the husband that was chasing me? of course it's all my fault right, it's not my fault we get on the way we do or have chemistry but we also work together so her having it in for me is also her trying out force me out of a job. how can I get out of this one without being unemployed or generally unhappy??? help!!
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Registered: 11-14-2008
Tue, 11-18-2008 - 7:48pm

umm...you've GOT to be kidding me....right......this is a joke post....has to be. You can not expect your AP's wife's mother to like you.......Please tell me you arent serious.

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Tue, 11-18-2008 - 7:55pm
Hmmm...I was thinking the same!

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Registered: 05-23-2008
Tue, 11-18-2008 - 7:56pm
well no not atall. it just gets to me that the women always get blamed for everything like it had nothing to do with him. yes of course a women can only be a threat to another man if he remotely allows it, and since he is my boss and refuses to fire me why does this have nothing to do with him??? thats what I dont get it has all got so out of hand too many people know. i mean does she not see the bigger picture I am not the problem, even if i left the job does not mean ther ewill no longer be 3 people in the marriage as she puts. men always get off scoot free why??? if he wasnt sending off those vibes or chasing me in the first place there would be no problem. it makes me soooooooo angry. doing me out of a job wont stop him chasing will it really?
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Registered: 11-18-2008
Wed, 11-19-2008 - 12:10am
Just curious...
Carrrrrried...away2
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Registered: 11-14-2008
Wed, 11-19-2008 - 3:18am

Check out the Betrayed Spouse board......


The husbands/wives (WS)

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Registered: 09-01-2008
Wed, 11-19-2008 - 8:29am

Hon

Like it or not, this is how it goes. Apart from anything else, her daughter presumably still loves this guy and wants to stay married. If she loves her daughter then she can't easily tear one off him, even if she wanted to. So all that righteous anger she feels at seeing her child hurt, goes to you.

Try standing in a Mom's shoes for a moment and imagining it was your child betrayed.

D x

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Registered: 05-23-2008
Wed, 11-19-2008 - 2:26pm

thank you all for what you have said. i was definately having a moment that day and i am just trying to pay my bills and get on my feet and stay there and now this has completely messed me up. i definately will read that other board to see what's happening but "Jerry Springer waiting to happen" sounds about right. if i was a mother i can totally understand that I could not just take my daughter away from the man she loves and i am an easy target. it just got to me. but that is how it goes in these situations but to make it worse right now we aren't even sleeping together right now. i'd definately feel better if we were but as i know to an EA is just as bad. he has just asked me to go and watch him in a competition on friday which i dont want to do as his W will be there too.