Holiday Blues

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Registered: 10-18-2008
Holiday Blues
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Sun, 04-04-2010 - 12:05pm

Ok, anyone else here feeling lonely, disgusted and sad cuz your AP is with their significant other and kids and you haven't heard from them?

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Registered: 08-09-2009
In reply to: ohsolonely
Sun, 04-04-2010 - 1:28pm

Definately agree with you. Happy snaps posted online of their family time together will be the icing on the cake.

Hang in there. It doesnt get easier but eventually you become somewhat immune.

Happy Easter and (((hugs))), OSL.

SB

Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
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Registered: 10-21-2009
In reply to: ohsolonely
Sun, 04-04-2010 - 3:35pm

Hey actually it's YOUR life...and it can be whatever YOU want it to be and it's doesn't have to be the way you hate it. Really simple....if you don't want to be the other woman - don't be her:)

XOXO
Gone

**Bloodied but unbowed**
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Registered: 09-07-2009
In reply to: ohsolonely
Sun, 04-04-2010 - 9:11pm

I am sorry you are feeling Blue...If it isn't the Holidays it will next be the vacations.
Try to focus on what the A brings you not what you are missing.

My lover and I were in contact all weekend, as usual. He never makes me feel like I take a second seat to her. I lead a busy full life and do not dwell on the family stuff. I know where he would rather be. For me his kids are young and he belongs there.

If he doesn't make you feel good most of the time perhaps you need to rethink the A...take care.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
In reply to: ohsolonely
Tue, 04-06-2010 - 10:19am
I have been through your stage! If you read my very early posts,you will see I was slammed for being jealous of his kids.I was venting here but was given a real good beating for doing so !! It was an eyeopener though.Since then I have gotten quite acceptable of the fact that my AP has little kids whom he adores and if I want him in my life,I have to accept the fact that they come first.Not easy,but what can we do??
I wouldnt worry about the pictures and stuff.If he has been doing it earlier,he has to continue doing it to not raise suspicion by his W,KWIM?
It used to kill me then but nearly 3 years down the A,I am happy to have put with this little fact.I keep myself very busy during the vaccations ,to be honest,I postpone my 'my' time for his vaccation so I dont dwell and sink into negative stuff.That way I dont become nagging or clinging.I am sure that I am next to his kids :)
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Registered: 01-23-2010
In reply to: ohsolonely
Tue, 04-06-2010 - 10:24am
If you are single, why are you settling for being the OW. Why not get out and meet other guys who can put you first in their lives and you don't have to be a secret? There is an entire sea of available men out there, why not date and enjoy life. I don't get how single women sit back and wait on a MM.
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Registered: 11-13-2008
In reply to: ohsolonely
Tue, 04-06-2010 - 10:38am

Dating sucks !! I am a SW with a MM and he fits into everything I want and need in a man.I was free to date while being with AP and I did try seriously but ended up back in MM's arms! It 'seems' easy but it really is bad and sick.I have tried OLD,parties,friends of friends,you name it.The worst part is,as we get older,it becomes more difficult.Like I said,it sounds easy to go find a SM but honestly,it isnt so.

You asked 'ohsolonely' but I replied as it applies to me as well.I dont wait on my MM.I guess thats the key I have gotten hold of.Once I stopped waiting,it got easier with no regrets or looking back.

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Registered: 10-18-2008
In reply to: ohsolonely
Tue, 04-06-2010 - 10:42am
First of all, I'm not single!
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Registered: 10-18-2008
In reply to: ohsolonely
Tue, 04-06-2010 - 10:46am

Thanks for the support!