Holiday busy-ness
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Holiday busy-ness
| Wed, 12-10-2003 - 10:22am |
Is anyone else having a rough time with their As right now due to the holidays? EVERYONE, not just MM, is so incredibly busy there just doesn't seem to be enough time in the day. I'm guilty of being busy too but on top of all of that, MM has been out of work a lot due to family things and it's just really hard. He told me last week that he really misses our private conversations and then yesterday he said he's missed me. But then yesterday afternoon he was too busy to see me. I ended up getting a long private phone conversation at the end of the day that was better than the short visit I would have gotten in the afternoon, and I was so relieved to be able to just talk to him. But then today it looks like he's missing in action yet AGAIN. I feel like I'm going to go crazy. Just when I think I've finally got him back to normal again, he vanishes for a couple of days unexpectedly or I get stuck in a meeting for hours at a time and next thing I know it's time to go home and I haven't even gotten to see him except in passing. It just seems like life keeps coming between us. I seem to recall a little while back people were talking about dreading the holidays and I just thought they meant the week of Christmas, when we're all separated from our MMs/OMs and with our families but maybe you all meant the entire holiday season. Is it always like this? Even worse -- both of us are taking the last week of the year off so there will be almost two full weeks where we won't see each other at all. I know when the time comes I'll be fine; it's just dreading what's to come that is hard for me. How are you all coping? It's funny -- I remember a time I used to look forward to my vacations. Now I'm dreading them and I look forward to going to work. How warped is that?!

At first, I was a bit upset, but that wasn't making things better so I've lightened up.
We talked monday and he sounded so tired. He said he missed me and loves me. That's all I needed to hear, :).
I miss him very much. The best thing I can do is just let him be to deal with that there. He doesn't need me to add to his stress so I pulled back.
I wouldn't be bothered by this quite as much, except I did see him for lunch today (no IC, just lunch) and he talked a lot about his feelings of guilt... oh boy. At first I thought he was trying to break off again, but he kept reassuring me no, that I was the only person he COULD talk to about feeling guilty and he just wanted to get it out. Hmmm...
So those are my thoughts around busy-ness and the holidays. I, too, am leaving town for a week and won't see him, so that's yet another reason I am anxious to get together again SOON... oh, damn. Sometimes these EMAs just suck.
Done venting. Thanks.
Anna
Actually... my MM can multi-task rather well for a man... I have to say, he's sometimes better than me :) My MM too is very flat out at the moment... he's taken on extra work at present and also started some course and has a big assignment and presentation to put together for it... as well as his normal work.
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Anna
Seeburg
I'm trying really, really hard to be understanding and so far I have. I don't like it at all. He's supposed to come by the end of the year, but I doubt it. I really don't know what's going on because we really haven't had the time to talk and that's annoying.
I know he's busy. I know it's hectic, but I think he could STILLL call either way.
Hi Anna,
oh trust me! I know how frustrating it can be at times... and I don't have a problem letting my MM know... but at the same time... I will not place the blame on him... his work can be unpredictable and I have no control over what happens with work and on the home front.
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