Holidays and the MW/OW

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Registered: 10-06-2003
Holidays and the MW/OW
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Mon, 12-08-2003 - 9:17am
I have been reading a lot about those who are NOT looking forward to the Holidays.

I wonder if those issues are different among MW and OW?

I know that I am looking forward to the holidays, so much to do, with family and the kids. I know I will miss MM, and I know he will be doing things with his family and W's family, and that does hurt(I long for the Christmas when it's MM and I and our kids around the Christmas tree on Christmas morning). I'll be travling out of town for a 4 day weekend. To spend time with H's sister and kids. But for the most part I'm looking forward to the holiday season!

I love this time of year,

dayz

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Tue, 12-09-2003 - 9:06am
Its not that I am not looking forward to the holidays...I love the holidays and being with my friends and family...but I am a SW involved with a MM...it is a very different situation compared to those of you who have H's and children...it is just a natural reaction to want to spend the holidays with the person you love and in my case...I cannot...we will have our own special "Christmas night" together, it just wont be Christmas Eve or Christmas Day. I will be missing him tremendously and constantly thinking about him, wondering what he is doing and if he is thinking of me as much as I am thinking of him...I do plan to enjoy my holidays to the fullest, but I will be missing my MM!
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Registered: 08-31-2003
Tue, 12-09-2003 - 10:11am
36C?? You are make me delirious by making me dream of a perfect day at the beech. Can I come there for a vacation?? LOL
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Tue, 12-09-2003 - 10:30am
I love Christmas, even though I won't see OM for more than 2 weeks. He and his wife and kids will be traveling to be with his family for the entire time (he is European). But I will have LOTS of things to do - I have a bunch of kids, and I will be too busy to pine for OM, though I will miss him a great deal. It's not a bad idea to have a break from him from time to time, just like it's not a bad idea to get a break from DH or the kids occasionally - it both gives me time to breathe as well as reminds me just how much each of them "gives" to my life.

The harder part for me is that any time OM goes on vacation, he is super-busy at work for the 2-3 weeks before his vacation, and in some ways it's like he's already gone. He tries his best to see me and call me, but there's just no denying that I have to come after work and family obligations (as he does for me). That means I end up being stood up at the last minute, which he never does at any other time - and even though he apologizes profusely, and I know he doesn't take me for granted, it still sucks. I told him that before his next vacation, we should just pretend that we don't have this relationship and not plan to see or email each other for the couple weeks beforehand - it is just too hard to put up with. Too late for this time, but I'm going to give it a try next time. He wasn't happy, but he wants whatever I want.

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Tue, 12-09-2003 - 10:51pm

Hey mitzy,


I do plan on heading to the beach... and we will be in Sydney... close to Bondi Beach... so hopefully I'll get there.

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Tue, 12-09-2003 - 10:53pm

Sure opal... head on down :)


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