Holy Grape Nuts....What a mess....

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Registered: 06-17-2010
Holy Grape Nuts....What a mess....
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Thu, 06-24-2010 - 6:58pm

Okay - so I've shared my story - I'm a MW with an A to a MM - both of our respective spouses know, both of us are in the midst of divorce.

So yesterday - AP calls me and drops a bomb - his W is pregnant. I'm not even sure how to feel. He was in tears - it was the night he left their house - amazing the chances.

I'm not sure how to feel. W now wants to wait on the D until after new bebe is born - AP doesn't want to wait - has wanted out for long time.

I don't want to be in the midst of it.

I have no idea how to feel. A part of me feels betrayed, a part of me feels like I have no right to feel that way - I am devastated.

now what?

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Registered: 03-29-2010
Thu, 06-24-2010 - 9:02pm

That depends on lots of things, and the two of you will figure it all out. It does change things, that's for sure. He's bound to have some pretty conflicted feelings along the way.

Did he lead you to believe he wasn't having sex with his wife anymore? That's a factor too, if he lied about that. If he's wanted to leave so badly, why did he have sex with her - obviously unprotected (unless protection failed).

Anyway, no one here can tell you the answer to "now what?" Only you and he together can figure it all out.

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Thu, 06-24-2010 - 11:18pm

Yikes!


"Now what?" depends on you two.

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