HOLY HOLY MOLY......OMG!!!

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Registered: 09-24-2003
HOLY HOLY MOLY......OMG!!!
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Thu, 09-25-2003 - 6:44pm
Well my MM's W called him at work today to tell him........

She is not moving here, wants a divorce, and what is he gonna do about it....

He told his boss, and me, he will NOT go back to his home state, and will stay here and figure out a way to bee able to see his kids....

I am in SHOCK!!!!

I told him not to assume anything, that she is probably trying to play head games, and looking for him to say "No, please don't, I need you, come out here, or I'll come home" and he won't say that to her...

He said to her "Great so how am I gonna spend time with my kids" and she got really irrate and accused him of having a GF out here, and hung up. He didn't call her back, instead called me when he got home, and told me all about it.

When we were done talking tonight, he was just running to the store, and stopping by here to talk about us, but he had a VM when he hung up, and it was her and she said she is calling at a certain time, and that he better answer...apparently every time she calls, he's on the phone w/ me. LOL

We still have not and will not get intamate. I told him that today. I told him I still will not do anything physical w/ him while he's still married. And he said he understood.

I am still in shock, he is going to call me after he talks to the W and fill me in.

NOW.....I could REALLY fall in love with him.

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Sun, 09-28-2003 - 9:44am
srose, please read the policy statement for using this particular board. It is strictly for support for those in EMA's or for those contemplating them. It is NOT for voicing opinions about infedelity. It says that in the guidelines.
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Registered: 09-24-2003
Sun, 09-28-2003 - 11:08am
srose....I am NOT looking for a pat on the back, or a "You're a good person" that's not it. I was looking for help...I wanted to see what everyone else was going through before I did anything I would regret. So, I came here and posted and I have read nearly every other post on this board, and I is clear to me that an A hurts...

I will be getting hurt, and I know this, and so does he. FYI, I we didn't resist it this weekend, we did what we shouldn't have done, and I DON'T feel as guilty as I thought I would.

If it ends when his W gets here, then it ends. I am not going to try to break up their M, I am not going to obbsessivly stalk him, or call their house with only the intend to talk to him. My job is on the line, if she thinks, or finds out about this, and my job is worth more than any man.

I have had "bed-buddies", guys who don't want a R or when I didn't want a R w/ them, but yet we did stuff in bed, for fun. Then it was over, and life goes on.

I am not a very emotional person. I have a wall built up for protection, I think, and many a guy has fallen for me, and worn me out with mooshy gooshy stuff, I am more physical, than emotional when it comes to men. That's why I think I fell for my MM because I know it will be going NO WHERE long term.

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Registered: 07-27-2003
Sun, 09-28-2003 - 12:22pm
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Edited 9/28/2003 3:48:23 PM ET by charlotte1203

Edited 9/28/2003 8:03:18 PM ET by charlotte1203


Edited 6/1/2004 10:54 pm ET ET by charlotte1203

 

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Registered: 09-04-2003
Sun, 09-28-2003 - 1:05pm
WHY ARE YOU EVEN ON THIS BOARD? THIS IS A BOARD FOR SUPPORT, NOT JUDGEMENTS. TAKE YOUR MORAL BULL*HIT ELSE WHERE. YOU DON'T KNOW ANY OF US AND YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO TELL ANY OF US WHAT'S RIGHT OR WRONG ABOUT OUR LIVES. QUIT WAISTING YOUR BREATH. WE DON'T WANT TO HEAR IT, POINT BLANK!
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 09-28-2003 - 1:16pm
hi idreamer with you on this one makes me so anrgy peopel tells how to live are lives.l just found mm W he knows l'm here for him he going very hard time right now. no one nows what happen between us that is are busssines.l do know he love sme own way . please go away unless you walk in are shoes kimmy
kimmy
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Registered: 07-25-2003
Sun, 09-28-2003 - 1:25pm
You're a good one to talk Kimmy. You say not to say anything till you've walked in our shoes. How bout it Kimmy? when are you going to walk in our shoes? We all know you aren't having an affair, and that your MM is in fact, a very old man who is friends with your family. He only ever kissed you once, on the cheek, and saw you when you pranced around in your nighty. THAT doesn't make it an affair. He looks at you like a grandchild, nothing more. I know this because good old TONY told me so. So until you've actually had an affair that the other person involved in, actually knows about it, why don't you stop trying to pass judgement? You have no idea what you're talking about when it comes to affairs, so why don't YOU go away too?
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Registered: 09-24-2003
Sun, 09-28-2003 - 2:35pm
Wow guys!!! I am so sorry now that I started this thread, I feel like it's all my fault you guys are fighting. We all make our own choices, and we know right from wrong, but we know what feels good also. Some of us are living for the moment, some are looking for something that's missing, but we don't have to fight over who's right, and who's wrong. I overlooked the ruder comments, except to say that I wasn't looking for anyone to tell me I'm great. I know what I've done, I tried to resist, and he did also. But I just got off the phone with him, and he said "I'm only human" and "we'll get through this" and stuff like that.

I will deal with the next phase any way I have to. At least we had something, even if it ends abruptly...that's what will be in my heart forever.

An XBF called me last night, and wants to "Talk" so I am going to give him a chance and see what happens there. I am not going to base my life around one MM forever.

Please stop fighting though. It's not worth it. Can we just support each other, no matter what the choices we are making? I already got reemed out on the Ending an A board, I just wanted to know what they thought would become of my situation, and they laid it into me. But I'm ok with that, they know what happens when things end.

I'm a good person. Mistakes will be made. I'll still be alive tomorrow. Everyday is the first day of the rest of our lives...and no one can predict the future.

Thanks for those who did give great advice. It's really appreciated.

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Registered: 07-27-2003
Sun, 09-28-2003 - 3:48pm
Down girls! LOL

 

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