honeymoon phase of an affair
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honeymoon phase of an affair
| Tue, 07-20-2010 - 10:32am |
How long do you think the honeymoon phase of an affair lasts?
just a question....would like your input
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

Only 2 or 3 months into mine.
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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was just wondering..for me it was a year then we hit a rough spot then the honeymoon phase started all over again....
after i stopped talking to him for 6 months the honeymoon phase started over once again....but we have our spats..or i have spats at him
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
we both started quite hot and heavy.. and realized (well she did and made me :-) ) that such a pace is not sustainable and most likely destructive.. that was about 5-6 months into the A.. if we call that a honeymoon.. since then, we are still learning about each other day by day, and enjoy each other as very close friends and more.. i personally see this as an extended, never-ending honeymoon, since we rarely, actually never, fight or argue, and treat each other with respect, and share every day with each other as it comes and as much as it is possible and safe.. of course, that doesn't mean that there isn't an endless ribbing of each other going on daily, but that's just too much fun to give up.. what else can an AP ask for, right?
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Chechi you made some good points. Our Honeymoon stage (in my other similar post on this issue) lasted about 3 mths. But he had a fee 'life moments' around that time- including (and I hadnt thougnt about this before) visiting his Mum OS and learning more about her affair (which happened 20years ago and ruined his family- she is now married to the AP).
So yes maybe those soul searching moments that bring home the guilt issues with an A, can end the honeymoon stage quickly.
But as others said, the intensity of that stage is very hard to sustain and was quite honestly making me wonder what the hell was going to hapen- I never wanted to leave my family- so his 'we are meant to be together forever' stuff was causing me some stress.
But I do miss the overtly loving things he used to say- just appealed to the romantic in me I guess- and fed my 'everything is about me' monster :)
LOL Iggy @ your 'everything is about me' monster ....I have one of those too!! LOL :-)
I think with your AP (who reminds me sooooo much of mine sometimes) he really did just realise he had to get an intellectual grip on his emotions in order to maintain your R in these circumstances.
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss