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How to ask???
| Sun, 12-21-2003 - 1:45am |
I have been dating a MM for the past 4 months. He left his wife after a month into our relationship. I know he didn't leave her for me. They have been having problems for a long time. If anything, my presence just made it a little easier for him to do. She filed for divorce immediatly. I don't ask questions about their relationship or about the divorce because I know it has to be hard enough without the girlfriend adding to it. I want him to leave her because he is unhappy and wants to leave, not becase of me or because I am nagging him about it. I know that, to a point, I have a right to ask because my feeling are involved also. There are three children involved which also makes me reluctant to stick my nose in it. We love each other so much, but I don't know how to bring this up to him. How do I ask him about the divorce and how he feels without coming off as the pestering girlfriend? How do I not make him feel alienated while getting enough information to know my status in this ordeal? With Christmas just around the corner, I feeling insecure about my place in his heart. I know he loves me. He and his wife are from out of state. Of course they are flying home to be with the families for christmas. I know he has to do it. He would be an a#%&@le if he didn't go home. They were married for 20 years and thier familes will be together for Christmas. It just sucks knowing she will be there. I'm just trying to figure out my place in all of this and how significant is it
FoxyE513

As for being with his wife over the holidays...it's probably better for the kids if they are, so look at it that way. That he's just trying to be a good dad. That may help. Maybe?? Probably not!!!
Good luck. I hope you find peace.
Lucky