How can I go see him???

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-22-2009
How can I go see him???
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Tue, 09-22-2009 - 12:09pm

So I must say that I am new here....However I have visited the group from time to time...I never had any intention of starting an affair i saw the group and was curious and browsed around...Well a year later here i am....and i am glad that I did stumble upon this discussion board because i need support now....A few months ago i met a man we like each other very much...I have never done this before and I don't know how to go about making excuses to leave the house and going to see him I'm not working right now so i cant say that I'm working late...I would appreciate some suggestions....

Also I would like to share a bit about myself....No I did not wake up one morning and decided that I was bored with my marriage and decided to find an emotional or physical thing....I have been married for 10 years and I must admit that the only reason i have stayed is because of the children...I never thought that the man that could be so sweet and honest could turn into such a cruel man...I will never get over the fact that he physical hurts me and at times berates me....So please understand way me and my new male friend have gotten closer...please do not judge me I am only human.....Thank u for reading

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2009
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 12:58pm

You need to be sure this is something you really want to do. Once you go down that road there is no turning back. It's a rollercoaster ride for sure. How far away is your AP? You will need to account for the amount of time your away from home.

Scar
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-18-2009
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 1:29pm
My view is that staying in a bad marriage because of the children is the reason why you have to leave the marriage.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-14-2009
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 1:58pm

HI and welcome! No judging allowed here LOL! First I do want to say that if you are in an abusive relationship, maybe you should think about getting out. If not, THAT'S OK it's your choice! So to answer the 'how do I account for my time'? Can you join a group, a club? Meet some new friends? I have started a new job that is away from my house so I use the working late, or going out with friends. Also are you home alone? Or are your kids with you 24x7? If you have times when they are in school, can you get away then?

I know this is going to be hard, but if you are happy then go for it!!
K

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-22-2009
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 3:26pm
We're in the same state different Borough....It takes about to 2 hours by public transportation
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-22-2009
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 3:31pm
i have one school aged child the others are home w/me during the day if I were to join a group it would probably have to be something during the weekend...
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2009
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 5:38pm

Please......call the national domestic abuse hotline:


1.800.799.SAFE (7233) 1.800.787.3224 (TTY)


Anonymous & Confidential Help 24/7


NO ONE DESERVES TO BE ABUSED IN ANY WAY.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 6:02pm

There is a difference between judging and telling the truth. NO ONE should be in an abusive relationship. And no one should subject their children to witness and/or suffer from abuse.

Telling people it is OK, especially those with kids, to stay in an abusive relationship is simply irresponsible.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2007
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 5:29pm

Ok, verbal and physical abuse is unexcusable.