How to deal with stalking ex-wife?

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Registered: 11-09-2003
How to deal with stalking ex-wife?
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Tue, 03-09-2004 - 9:34am
I started dating a married man about 7 months ago. His relationship with her had been in trouble for a long time and they started working on the divorce about a month after he and I started dating. She soon found out about me, and of course it was a mess, as to be expected. I try to stay out of it and have never had a confrontation with her. I just found out last night that about a month ago she had one of her children go to my place of employment and take pictures of my car and lisence plate. He said that he has never seen the pictures and she could be lying anyway. He said she did that so that she could run my plates and get my address. I moved to a new city a year ago and the plate is still registered at the old address, so she can't get my address. This had totally infuriated me and I guess i have a bit of a temper (but only when provoked). I feel that i can't just ignore this one. I feel that my privacy has been violated with the pictures and would have been more so if she could have found out my address. i feel the need to defend myself. She is the vice president of a local bank in town. Maybe I'm still so angry about this, but my idea was to call and make an appointment to see her (under a different name). Tell her I know of her attempt to find my address, but since I also know she could not find my address with the plates she has pictures of, hand her a card with my current address and tell her if her balls are big enough, then bring herself to my house. what would you do?
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Registered: 02-03-2004
Tue, 03-09-2004 - 11:32am
Hey Foxye -- first of all, how did you find this out? And secondly, be careful. Sounds to me like this is MM's mess to clean up. And she's getting her kids involved? She's a nut case, if that's true. I would be really careful -- and I'm not sure confrontation is the answer. What does MM say? If she's a danger to you, you should respond (not necessarily by yourself). If it's just an annoyance, perhaps you should think about what kind of repercussions MM would have to endure if you respond in kind. Good luck.
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Registered: 01-21-2004
Tue, 03-09-2004 - 11:43am

hi foxye513 and welcome to the board!


i do understand what you are feeling, but really, do you absolutely know for certain that MM's W invaded your privacy or took pictures?

CL-Gurlfriend50

Co-CL of My Affair Support Board

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Tue, 03-09-2004 - 11:54am
I agree and I couldn't have said it better. Something things are left "unstirred" than "cooked". :)