How did you do it?
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How did you do it?
| Fri, 02-06-2004 - 2:40am |
Can I ask of those who have gone all the way...those who have left their H and homes for the OM.
How did you do it? Was it well planned?
Did your H find the whole thing a surprise?
The closer my leaving gets, the more scared I become. Not sure exactly what I fear, probably a myriad of things. How will H handle my leaving, how will I handle losing all contact with my loved ones. (NONE of them will be able to accept what I'm doing so they'll probably cut off all contact with me after the fact......I've made peace with that probability. I'll lose contact with my precious 7 year old grand child though, and that scares me quite a lot I guess.)
How did you do it? Was it well planned?
Did your H find the whole thing a surprise?
The closer my leaving gets, the more scared I become. Not sure exactly what I fear, probably a myriad of things. How will H handle my leaving, how will I handle losing all contact with my loved ones. (NONE of them will be able to accept what I'm doing so they'll probably cut off all contact with me after the fact......I've made peace with that probability. I'll lose contact with my precious 7 year old grand child though, and that scares me quite a lot I guess.)
LOL As you can see, I do a lot of middle-of-the-night rambling and thinking. LOL
How have others actually carried through with their plans? How did you manage your own emotions at a time when you were feeling your weakest?
Did others know your plans? Friends? Family?
Thankyou for your thoughts...I've found them comforting and valuable thus far. It helps a lot to be able to talk about this stuff.

Please do think over your decision very hard.
Philly Girl
Now how do I get to the area one of you suggested.....the "end" of the forum? LOL
I know where to look next, thankyou. LOL
Gaaaa dorky morning here.
CL-Gurlfriend50
Co-CL of My Affair Support Board
I just left my husband last Sunday. I did not leave for MM though, in fact, our R is still a secret because of his W. But, my situation was totally different than yours. I don't know how long you've been married or why your family wouldn't be there to support you. I had a jealous and controlling H so it was easy for me to walk away, although we have three young children. My family actually knows about OM and is very supportive. In fact, he has hung out with my dad a few times (sounds crazy, I know). But, my family was more supportive of me leaving than staying so it was a completely different situation! The best advice I can give is maybe don't let them know you are leaving for OM. Maybe you should try taking baby steps. Get an apartment first and then wait a while before you bring him around. A grandchild is a precious gift and it would be horrible for you and her to lose contact. Maybe if you go out on your own and in a few months introduce them to OM and go from there instead of rushing away with him it would be easier for everyone to swallow. I know this is all easier said than done but you are making a big decision that isn't only going to affect your life but the lives of those around you as well. If OM really cares than he will fully understand your need to keep things calm with the family for the sake of your grandchild. Best of luck.....