How did you know? Who did it?
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How did you know? Who did it?
| Wed, 04-28-2010 - 10:52am |
I am curious how your affairs began. How did you know the other person was open to an affair and/or trustworthy? Who initiated it and how?
I would love the intimate details :-)!!

I am S, so obviously AP is M.
I am S and I met my MM at work.
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I blame it all on him!
I used to frequent a "fantasy" type message board from the mid 90's till the early 2000's. We would set up "bar" type topics and "living room" type topics and there was even a castle. (OK now I'm giving so much info that any of my old cyber friends would know the place I'm speaking of, if not actually who I am.) I made so many friends there, we had a blast. There was one guy who seemed funny and smart and witty and all that stuff, but I didn't really hang out in the topics that he did, so I didn't get to know him. He and I had a mutual good friend, who decided to introduce us because she knew we were only a few exits off the highway from each other, so to speak. (Actually, he's a good 35 min. away, but to her, it seemed we were close geographically. Hey, in the cyberworld, being within 6 hours of each other is "close"). He sent me an e-mail and we chatted back and forth. I don't know how we "knew" that each of us might be interested in something more than friendship. I guess the nature of the e-mails, the topics discussed, etc... It was kinda fun because we carried over the flirting to the message board. Hard to explain unless you've ever been involved in that type of message board (and no, they no longer exist that I know of - anywhere!) Anyway we arranged to meet one morning at a donut shop. I'll never forget seeing him standing outside the shop that morning... tall, leather jacket, sunglasses. We had coffee inside, and that's when he finally removed those sunglasses. You know the saying from that old movie Jerry Maguire - "you had me at hello"? Well, he had me the minute the sunglasses were off, and he was looking at me. Still a moment I remember after all these years.
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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Well, I suppose I'll call this guy my EA even if it's one sided which I don't really think it is. I actually was on the verge of emailing or calling yesterday and just spitting it out. I joked on another topic about self destructing emails. I found out they actually exist!! I was plotting out an email to send and who do I hear outside!
He hasn't been around much lately. He comes and goes. Like I said it seems like when we get close to a step one of us will back off for a while. I know this is smart but also can drive you crazy after a while! It seems like just when it's been long enough to drive me insane he will saunter back in. I sometimes hope that this is because it's driving him crazy too.
I tried to remain calm. But as usual his gorgeous smile and twinkling eyes had me gaga. We joked around a bit and he suggested a ride on his motorcycle... ooolala I got a few smiles and at least one wink and because I'm so "easy" it made my day!
Now I chickened out on the "destructing email!" (cuz I'm totally gutless) So we'll see if I hear a purring
I started a new job a few years ago and I would bump into him twice a week, he worked for security. He had such a familiar face (knew I've seen
Much peace & Love,
Rayne
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