How did you meet your MM?

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Registered: 04-08-2003
How did you meet your MM?
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Sun, 03-14-2004 - 11:24am
Just curious...

I can't imagine getting involved with someone I work with or who my DH knows well, but I realize some people do. Where else have you ladies met your MMs?

Sorry if this has been asked tons of times..


Edited 3/14/2004 12:28 pm ET ET by dallastrigirl

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Registered: 10-16-2003
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 3:36pm
Hi,

We met the good old fashioned way - In a bar!

HFL
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Registered: 01-02-2004
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 4:42pm
Hi dallastrigirl!

I met my OM through a mutual friend at work. OM and I are both teachers in the same school district, although we teach in different buildings. Occassionally teachers from different buildings who are friends will go out for happy hour, which is how I met OM. Luckily I don't have to see him at work ever. I think that would be really hard.
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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 5:12pm
I met my MM online in a chat room. Started chatting online almost everyday, moved on to phone conversations then we arranged to meet up. It just grew from there really and that was almost 2 years ago.
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Registered: 03-10-2004
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 8:28pm
Hi Dallas,

I met my MM at work. We were aquantainces, then friends, then good friends. He came to my wedding, I went to his, but between that period (about 6 months) we acknowledged an attraction for each other and almost went straight into a sexual A. We maintained our friendship as we tried to sort out our guilt and our feelings for each other. He waivered back and forth a lot, which was hard because we'd see each other at work every day. We've finally decided to let things run it's course and accept our attraction to each other. I think it's very difficult to have an A with a co-worker because of that daily interaction, but at the same time, I don't think we choose our MM's, I think it just happens, as corny as that may sound. I knew MM for a year and a half and never thought about having an A with him or thought he wanted one with me, but one day it just happened.

IBC

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Registered: 01-05-2004
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 9:09am
I met MM when I was dating my H. They had friends in common so we would see him at cookouts and things. Over time we all began to spend more time together. In that time he had a couple of girlfriends and I was dating H. I felt an attraction to MM the first time I saw him but I was dating his friend and didn't know him that well yet so I thought it was purely a physical attraction. Of course MM & I are both very outgoing flirty people so there was always a lot of flirting and sexual innuendos between us but neither of us took it serious because we didn't know the other was interested.

4 years ago I married H. During the last year or so I've realized it was a mistake but that's another story. Shortly before I was married MM met his future W and they married about 8 months ago.

Over the course of the past 2 years the core group of people we socailize with has become MM & W and 2 other couples. We all see one another nearly every weekend. During this time MM & I continued to flirt and there was the occassional touch here or there. Then about 5 months ago after a party the 4 of us were the only ones still around. MM's W & my H were passed out/sleeping. MM & I were sitting up talking, like any other night, having a few drinks and playing cards. At one point he leaned in to brush something off my face and the next thing I knew we were in the mist of the most passionate kiss. The kind you feel all the way down to the tips of your toes. It lasted for a long time but I finally pulled back and said it was wrong, we couldn't do this. He agreed and apologized said he had always been attracted to me but never knew how to bring it up. While we were talking neither of us was looking the other in the eye but the second we did we were all over each other again.

The following Monday I forwarded a joke to him and others and he responded to me asked if I was OK, how was I feeling about things. We e-mailed back and forth alot agreed that there was a very strong attraction but the timing was wrong and we didn't want anyone to get hurt. If it was meant to be with us we would get our chance in the future. Of course the next time we saw each other the attraction was more intense than ever and we ended up sneaking away for a few kisses. After that we started e-mailing back and forth a lot, talking about everything including our fantasies and eventually even exchanged some naughty pics and videos. Whenever we were able to manage a few minutes alone we took advantage of it. Other times it would be things like playing footsy under the table or a quick touch when no one was looking. We've both tried to end it more than once, to go back to just being friends but then we get in the same room and the feelings are so intense. I know we can't go on like this forever. Eventually someone is bound to sense or see something and start to suspect.

Sorry that got so long. :)

luv

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Registered: 03-10-2004
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 2:17pm
Met MM at a golf tournament - he said he's volunteer for my charity if I'd dance with him which I did! We started emailing under the guise of business and got a bit flirty; I had a meeting with him at his office and during a tour he put his hands on my waist and I was so surprised at the butterflies. Our flirting got a bit more intense and the rest is history.

We're on a rocky patch now and I'm trying so hard to handle NC, but I think we'll find our way back. In spite of the sexual attraction (or because of it maybe), he's become a great friend.

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Registered: 12-02-2003
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 2:57pm
I too met my MM online. He IMed me one day, the chemistry was amazing, he called me that day. We literally the first day talked for 6 hours. We met the next day for dinner and have been Hot and Heavy ever since. (For the whole story read my post Do the ever leave? from today) I am head over heels in love w/ him. I would mountains if possible to be w/ this man. It's funny though comparing our stories of where we have been and where we have lived. We were destined to end up meeting at some point. It's odd. It's heart warming.

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