how did your Valentine weekend go ?

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Registered: 01-04-2004
how did your Valentine weekend go ?
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Sun, 02-15-2004 - 2:28am
I hope all of you here are enjoying the weekend either with your H or MM. Mine is spent with my mom as she is visiting. Since my MM is always away in some warm state with his wife every year, I never get to spend this day with him. Last year he called and wished me a Happy V Day but didn't send any flowers 'cos he was too afraid that his florist will find out about our A. This year, he got smarter and sent it via FTD and I got some nice roses in the office on Friday. He gave me a card before he left and I wasn't supposed to open it until today. So he did everything except call me on Friday. I was a little upset since I would much prefer to hear his voice than get flowers. Since he left a couple of weeks ago, we have only talked once. Part of the problem is due to the bad cell coverage down there and the only time he can talk is if his W is out shopping. They spend most of the time together since they only bring one car. When he is in town, we talk once daily so I miss the daily routine.

I kept having silly thoughts on Friday since I didn't get a call and got a little emotional ( but had to hide it from my mom). Then he called this afternoon while I was out in the mall and the bad connection made it difficult to talk again. I had to cut him off since my mom was waiting and didn't want her to get suspicious. May sound silly but it is amazing what one call can do to my emotions. I know, now, that he is still thinking about me on this V day !! I miss him terribly but then try telling myself not to read too much into one day. One thing for sure is the culture we live in put too much pressure for lovers on this day. We should be able to exchange our love daily and live like 2/14 daily. That maybe it is the only way to make us live happier and the relationship last longer.

Good luck to you all !! Please share your V day stories with the board.

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Registered: 08-31-2003
Mon, 02-16-2004 - 4:17pm
I agree, lets ignore them. Well, my V Day was good. I got flowers from the H. It was wonderful. My MM & I don't do gifts - we are always careful about getting caught. I can't explain any gifts to my H - its impossible to hide him and so does MM from his W.
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Registered: 08-24-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 3:31pm
mia,

Since this is an affair SUPPORT board, I'm surprised at your question. But I will attempt to answer.

Like many others here, both of our marriages are ok, and long-term. Mine has no passion in it, and his is having troubles right now, also along with no passion.

I am not "messing around". I fell in love, I got hit by a ton of bricks, lightning struck. We realized that we had loved each other for many years, but it wasn't meant to be until now. We both acknowledge that we are glad we are NOT young. This is way better than it would have been years ago.

The only thing that is "young" is the passion and love we feel for each other. We have spent MUCH more time talking to each other and enjoying each other's company, than we have spent naked together. We connect intellectually, emotionally, and, yes, sexually. I don't even consider this an affair; Ijust don't have another name for it.

On Valentine's day, H was enjoying being in the house by himself. We had gone to dinner the night before, and exchanged cards in the morning.

Legs

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Registered: 02-03-2004
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 3:48pm
Valentines day was better than I had hoped... MM is staying with me and H right now (see previous posts)so everything is a little dicey. H got me some lingerie that I wouldn't wear on a dare. How could he not know me after 11 years? He's so sweet but can be so clueless. But MM pulled me into the spare room the second the coast was clear, gave me a passionate and amazing kiss, then said that was a downpayment to hold on to for later (after we are not residing under the same roof). Never thought I'd be glad when a job was done and he could go back home (sigh). But what a spectacular downpayment *smile*
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Registered: 01-21-2004
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 4:41pm
hey all, my weekend was great -- lovely v-day dinner and the rest of the weekend was relaxing!

CL-Gurlfriend50

Co-CL of My Affair Support Board

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Registered: 01-20-2004
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 4:44pm
My sweetie and my H sent me flowers at work and it was a little "hairy" while everyone speculated. I took the flowers from my H home with me and still have the others today to look at and remember my sweetie. MM took me to lunch to a very nice Italian place on Friday but he had been feeling under the weather all week so we didn't have our usual bottle of wine. I gave him some CD's of music he likes and he was surprised that I remembered....but hey..that's what we girls do, right? We pay attention.:) He sent me text messages several times over the weekend but we didn't get to talk. He and his W went to a Mardi Gras festival and he "said" he didn't have a great time but suffered through it because she wanted to go. Secretly made me feel better that he didn't really want to be there. On Monday, we both had off work for President's Day. We spent the whole day together on a little day trip....going to the little town I grew up in for a quick tour....he said he was curious about where I grew up, then we went to a nearby beach town and had a wonderful late lunch with LOT's of wine, and just had a great time getting to hang out all day together. Generally, we just get a room and stay in and make love all day. I laughingly asked him if this meant he was tired of me because we didn't get a room and he just laughed...and said DEFINITELY NOT! PS: We found some interesting ways to get lovey dovey in the car....if you know what I mean.
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Registered: 02-03-2004
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 4:48pm
mmmmmm.... have to 'make do' really has it's advantages, doesn't it?
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Registered: 01-20-2004
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 6:21pm
Makes us both feel like we're high school again! (I'm 45 and he's 48!) Never thought I'd be doing all that kinda "stuff" again but sure glad I am!

Have a great evening everybody!

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