How do I express this?

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Registered: 08-17-2008
How do I express this?
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Mon, 08-25-2008 - 3:27pm

Hello everyone!


A quick update- My AP is married. I am single. We've been together for about

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Registered: 11-27-2007
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 3:40pm

Be there for him, support and encourage him first and foremost. Chances are, he already knows you're excited about being with him, otherwise he wouldn't be leaving his W. So, while that's important, its not as important as being there to support him right now. Go on as you have, show him how much you love him, but don't push the "excitement" too much. That will come through naturally. But, every now and then, when he's having a good day (and there will be plenty of bad days) do something special - cook his favorite dinner, suggest a romantic date out. And when there are bad days and he wants to spend them with you, tell him you love him and make sure he is reassured that he is doing the right thing.


Good luck to you - I know this is a very exciting time for you, and you want to scream from the rooftops, but there's also a lot of pain and stress around the corner that will make screaming from the rooftops just not feel right. KWIM?

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 4:09pm

I don't think I could add any more then what btdt has already said.

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Registered: 08-08-2008
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 4:53pm

Question first - does he have any kids?


First let me say Congrats!

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Registered: 11-28-2007
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 5:29pm

Hi SF -


I can't add anything to what BTDT and Trtle have already said.

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Registered: 12-01-2007
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 10:36am

As the others have already said, the best thing to do is just give him all the space and time he needs to work through all of this.