how do I handle this separation?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2008
how do I handle this separation?
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Tue, 10-07-2008 - 6:26pm

Hi all,


I really need everyone's support today. I have posted here before and on other boards. Just a quick recap. I am not in a PA but I am in an EA.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-07-2008
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 7:04pm

Wow... I've never been on this message board but I feel like I could have written parts of that message myself. My situation is reversed. I am newly seperated and my OM is married with 2 kiddos.


I too feel like when we talk it just makes my day. It is like an addiction.


We also are not talking on weekends unless he "sneaks" on the internet. I spend entirely too much time just hanging around the computer wondering if he'll have a minute to jump on-line.


One weekend he told me last minute that he was taking off friday and monday and it totally threw me for a loop. I knew I wouldn't talk to him for 4 days and went into a slump. It doesn't usually get me down the whole weekend but each time it hits me a bit harder.


How long have you been involved with this OM?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2008
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 8:55am

Hi imokuro,


I would say we are in this EA since December last year.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2008
Fri, 10-10-2008 - 4:24pm

Hi all,


Well to my great surprise, the OM called me today.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2008
Sat, 10-11-2008 - 3:29pm


Nothing you can do, honey. If knowing it will devastate your family if you're caught isn't enough then you're just not ready to move on.

Until you are in your heart sure it's done for you, or until he dumps you, you're going to be vulnerable to him. It's just the way it is. We can all tell you - change your number, or block his, block his email - but if you're not ready to give him up, you won't.

D x