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How Do I Know What He's Thinking?
| Sun, 01-25-2009 - 11:31am |
I made a post yesterday and didn't really say everything.
| Sun, 01-25-2009 - 11:31am |
I made a post yesterday and didn't really say everything.
Unless you are a psychic you don't know what he is thinking and you won't ever know. MY AP was never one to talk about his feelings so I would have to sit and figure it out, it was exhausting and got me nowhere.
It is quite possible that he is feeling alot more towards you than he had originally planned so maybe he is "holding back" a bit. But you don't know that for sure....sure, he is comfortable keeping things the way that they are.. He doesn't have to change his life and he still has you. If that isnt' want you want then there is a problem. When in an A you both have to be on the same page otherwise it won't work.
Why should he change? You've already proven to him that you're NOT going nowhere. He has the best of both worlds just the way he likes it. Now, if this is not working for you, then you have to make the change. You didn't say if you're M. If you are, then this could be an ideal sitting, you fill each others void. You're both going nowhere until you BOTH decide to get out of your M to be with each other (or someone has a D-day). He doesn't seem to be in the same page with you on that though. And if you're single, after 6-years A with this MM, I think it's safe to say he won't leave his W for you.
Maybe now is the time for you to examine and find answers into why you're making the choices you're making by having these A's. If you're trying to fill voids in your life, this is not the way to do it. It will only create bigger holes as you are finding out now.
"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."
- Ramona L. Anderson
There is a saying "Men never leave"
Now I have seen personally a few exceptions to that but generally they don't leave. While woman will leave an unhappy marriage--men enjoy cake too much, and don't like change. I feel that for men being separated from the LIFE is harder then from the WIFE, and the children make it seemingly impossible-imagine not being in the same home as your children.
Whatever you do do it for you. Only then will you truly find your way. Making decisions based on what you think a man may be thinking or feeling is a mistake.