How Do I Stop It?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-23-2008
How Do I Stop It?
3
Mon, 09-15-2008 - 3:32pm

Hello...


Okay so I came on here and opened up about fooling around with my best-friends husband and because I didn't know what to do...I didn't know if I should tell her or not...and after

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2004
Mon, 09-15-2008 - 4:34pm
Perhaps you should reconsider telling her.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2007
Mon, 09-15-2008 - 5:33pm

Or at the VERY LEAST, tell him that you are going to tell her.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-05-2007
Mon, 09-15-2008 - 8:20pm

Take that ride alone with him and then BE CLEAR! Tell him under NO circumstances are you going to let it happen again. Tell him that it made you feel awful, and if he says something stupid like "you shouldn't, it's OK" tell him that it is NOT OK no matter what he says! Tell him to quit the inappropriate texting, flirting, etc. Say that when it was innocent it was OK but now it's crossed the line and you never should have let it get to that point. You have to be clear, and firm, and maybe even mean to get the idea across. He senses that you're "waffling". Be clear, act disgusted, and if you have to threaten him with telling your g/f, then do so.

If he continues to make unwanted advances, you probably should tell your friend. It might be a huge mess and he might tell her a whole different story so I hope you don't have to do that.

Maybe you should expand your friend horizon also and hang out more with some that are not involved with the two of them. Create some distance.

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