How do I tell DH that I'm going?
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How do I tell DH that I'm going?
| Sat, 06-12-2010 - 10:47am |
Thanks to all who helped with my fuzzy thinking post. If you read that you know that I want to leave, but I don't have a concrete "reason."
Edited 6/14/2010 1:38 pm ET by weagle87
Edited 6/14/2010 1:38 pm ET by weagle87

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Is that how you come to this conclusion ?
I think it's the fact that you come to this board, don't start posts of your own, have never shared your story, but feel perfectly comfortable being nasty and judging everyone else here.
By all means, if you're not a troll, share your story.
anotherseyes
Hi everyone,
Just a quick reminder on what the MAS community guidelines say:
This board is a support community for members who
first of all let me clarify , I am a male & having an affair but it doesn't change the facts anyways .
anotherseyes , it is not directed at you but in general , if you wouldn't mind , what I am saying is once the affair has taken place , the decison is already made , not telling the partner can't undo the action .
you said " He does not have every right to know "
are you saying that he doesn't have the right to know the truth about his own life ? If your therapist says so because he /she will only tell you what is best for you . It doesn't matter weather you are rebuilding your marriage or not , you can't keep making the decisons for your spouse ,first the decison of affair & second if it is physical , putting his/her's life at risk , third the decison of keeping him ignorant for ever . What if it will hurt him/her ? This is life. He/she has to face it & learn something from it & that applies to both of you .
Actually 99% of times affairs are found out , so it is still better that he/she comes to know about this from you rather than someone else & finally your spouse will appreciate your honesty. . Will it be painful for him/her ? definately . but should it be a surprise for you ? not at all because these are the consequences of the choices we make willingly .
best of luck
mm here in an A w/ a mw.
no, he doesn't have to know. it's her cross to bear, not his.
when i finally
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