How do I tell DH that I'm going?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-24-2006
How do I tell DH that I'm going?
28
Sat, 06-12-2010 - 10:47am
Thanks to all who helped with my fuzzy thinking post. If you read that you know that I want to leave, but I don't have a concrete "reason."


Edited 6/14/2010 1:38 pm ET by weagle87

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2007
Mon, 06-14-2010 - 1:14pm
Just so you know -- I have read all of bestplayers posts & have come to the conclusion that "bestplayer" is a "troll" & have reported them to the MAS moderators as such...
BBC (Kim)
Pregnancy%20ticker
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2010
Mon, 06-14-2010 - 1:28pm
ok so any post that you dont like or dont agree with is troll ?
Is that how you come to this conclusion ?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-03-2010
Mon, 06-14-2010 - 1:39pm

I think it's the fact that you come to this board, don't start posts of your own, have never shared your story, but feel perfectly comfortable being nasty and judging everyone else here.


By all means, if you're not a troll, share your story.

anotherseyes

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2007
Mon, 06-14-2010 - 1:53pm
Nope -- not at all!!! I addressed a post directly to you on the main board. I have been on this board a VERY long time, and we have seen our share of trolls... So far, you have not had ANY post regarding YOUR being in an A, in a past A or even considering an A. Not, that I'm saying that is not the case, BUT, when every post I read from a new poster (that has never posted anything about themselves or situation) is sarcastic negative ranting (ok -- except for ONE with an apology about your BS) on a "support" board -- it just comes out as "Troll" -- so, tell us bestplayer what is YOUR A situation? (If their is one)... Because at this point you sound like a betrayed spouse that has wandered over to vent @ us (the "betrayers"). Or, just someone that thinks that can try & put some "betrayers" in "their place". Trust me, I don't have a problem with "tough love"/"reality check" posts NOR does the fact that this is a "support" board mean we "support" being in Affairs (in fact -- most of us DON'T!)
BBC (Kim)
Pregnancy%20ticker
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2008
Mon, 06-14-2010 - 3:13pm

Hi everyone,


Just a quick reminder on what the MAS community guidelines say:


This board is a support community for members who

Photobucket

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2010
Mon, 06-14-2010 - 6:37pm

first of all let me clarify , I am a male & having an affair but it doesn't change the facts anyways .

anotherseyes , it is not directed at you but in general , if you wouldn't mind , what I am saying is once the affair has taken place , the decison is already made , not telling the partner can't undo the action .
you said " He does not have every right to know "
are you saying that he doesn't have the right to know the truth about his own life ? If your therapist says so because he /she will only tell you what is best for you . It doesn't matter weather you are rebuilding your marriage or not , you can't keep making the decisons for your spouse ,first the decison of affair & second if it is physical , putting his/her's life at risk , third the decison of keeping him ignorant for ever . What if it will hurt him/her ? This is life. He/she has to face it & learn something from it & that applies to both of you .

Actually 99% of times affairs are found out , so it is still better that he/she comes to know about this from you rather than someone else & finally your spouse will appreciate your honesty. . Will it be painful for him/her ? definately . but should it be a surprise for you ? not at all because these are the consequences of the choices we make willingly .

best of luck

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2009
Mon, 06-14-2010 - 8:35pm

mm here in an A w/ a mw.


no, he doesn't have to know. it's her cross to bear, not his.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2009
Mon, 06-14-2010 - 8:43pm

when i finally

Pages