how do we really know the truth ????
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| Wed, 11-12-2008 - 11:07am |
hi ive posted here before, but mainly a lurker. Some quick background, im m and so is my AP we both have children. We have been in the affair for around 18 months. We connect at all levels, have daily contact via text, im etc. and tend to see each others for a few hours every week, and although occasionally we do get a room, our relationship is definatly not evolved around sex alone.
My ap is forever praising me, we have long hearty discussions about issues deep and meanigfull to us and our lives. We discuss everything and anything and he always makes me feel a million dollars. We are very open and honest about our feelings and he often tells me that he would marry me at a drop of a hat, and that if i ever become single then he would have to do anything to be with me. We have discussed being together but im as adamant as he is about leaving our families, me because of personal issues at home surrounding my children and him because of financial reasons, saying that he wouldnt want to put a financial strain on his spouse or have the children suffer financial loss because of his own mistakes, and that he couldnt afford to keep himself and support his family separatly, this is fine and suits us both. He is a fantastic guy and his outlook on life is very similar to mine.
my question is how how do we know that what our ap's tell us is the truth?, how do we show them that we mean what we say? so much of A is based on trust, without that is it worth the A. My Ap sounded distraught after i told him i had a day on my own with my thoughts, when asked why he sounded that way, his reply was 'you havnt been thinking of dumping me have you', it was so sweet but then made me realise, how do we show what we say, and vice versa.
Its so difficult, trusting someone when your not in their lives 24/7, but trust we must for without that wouldnt we send ourselves insane.
Just wanted to voice my thoughts, thanks for reading

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You will ' really know the truth' when he shuts you out!
Keep us posted.
P.S. Giving advice is my most loved hobby ;)
He is an exAP, you should post on EAS instead! this site is for those who are already involved in one.
"be yourself, disguise not, for your a truly unique beautiful being"
"be yourself, disguise not, for your a truly unique beautiful being"
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Edited 11/25/2008 9:50 pm ET by tygerzize
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
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