How do you all deal with the No Contact

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Registered: 12-17-2003
How do you all deal with the No Contact
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Sat, 01-10-2004 - 2:09pm
I was just sitting here wondering how you all dealt with it.Him being married he is with the W every weekend and I wont be able to talk to him till Monday morning. The A is new only met twice, think hes lying to me, but I still have this overwhelming desire to speak to him and I cant cause its the weekend! I used to look foward to them now they just get in the way !
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Registered: 12-25-2003
Sat, 01-10-2004 - 3:21pm
I kiss all the pillows in the house and my kids to deal with no contact. ;)
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Registered: 04-07-2003
Sat, 01-10-2004 - 4:08pm
I am single and in an A with a MM but he's separated. He has one of the kids and his W works with him so finding time to chat is non-existent. I don't have any family, or any pets, or any good friends around here, so to deal with the No Contact, I write. Poems, stories, research papers for school, laundry lists, anything that comes into my mind, I write down. I have filled tons of spirals and most of its junk but it helps me get my anger and frustrations out on something else besides him and on occasion I even find inspiration in my scribbles. Perhaps this was how the great novels were all written!!!

EX

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sat, 01-10-2004 - 6:07pm
Hi Vix

The Idea of writeing down your thoughts and feelings is a good one ,it's been proven to help a lot of women.


Free

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Registered: 01-10-2004
Sat, 01-10-2004 - 7:20pm

I've been in this a long time with my MM and at first we would talk on the weekends, but now we don't. At first it bothered me, but now I'm ok with it. I know he is at the house with her & not out where he's not supposed to be, :).


We talk everyday when he's at work so 2 days of not talking doesn't hurt us. Besides, I know when he gets back out we'll just pick up where we left off.


I know what you mean though about wanting or needing to talk to him, but can't cause it's the weekend. That does suck. However, unfortunately, that just how it is sometimes....

 

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Sat, 01-10-2004 - 8:42pm
my MM bought me a big teddy bear and then left two of his shirts at my place. i put them on the bear and sleep with it. it smells like him and i love to have soemthign to hold onto at night.

and even though he cant get up with you doesnt mean you cant leave him special messages. it used to help me to send email greeting cards or sexy stories i made up about us. and even though i knew he wouldnt read them till monday, it kind of helped me feel connected to share my feelings and ideas with him.

P.S...HOW ABOUT THEM PANTHERS.....WOOOOOOOOO HOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

laura