How do you create time for the OM?

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How do you create time for the OM?
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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 1:35pm
I was wondering what excuses you use to spend time with your OM? I thought about "going to the mall", but i don't know.....what works and what doesn't.??
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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 1:51pm
well lets see i always used shopping for an excuse and going out with my sister in law which she knows about my ema and supports me she is my brothers wife, we are close so the mall is good and going out with your girls if you can trust them or one of them, i have thought to say i have a work meeting after work, but really i always got out by saying i was going shopping in the am i would leave right when stores open and h never asked me any questions, good luck.

princess

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 1:54pm
for me it is very hard. i am at home all the time. when i do shop H thnks i shouldnt be gone long and i live in a remote area. and to visit freinds is uncommon. but i am starting to try and get out more so he stops questioning me. i have come close a few times in getting caught and now he doesnt trust me at all. i am learning to be very careful. as far as creating time for my MM. he is always worth making time for. we are in an LDR and that makes it hard but we both are trying to make it work.
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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 3:47pm
Well you sound lucky in that you live close to your OM...mine is 400+miles away!:( But my excuse is that I am going home to visit family...which is always true! But I just also make time 'for myself' while I am there. Also H doesnt like the long drive so I usually go by myself anyway. That's my excuse *shrugs* :)
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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 3:48pm
Oh I forgot to mention that we do chat most of the day M-F; email can be sooo amazing! ;)
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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 8:35pm
Because of the distance of my EMA it is always on the premise of a business trip...my H doesn't really understand what i do for a living...so i can get away with that excuse very easily.....

Maybe night out with the girls? Shopping is always a good excuse also....dinner out with people from work?

molly

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 9:11pm
well i love to read so the library is one excuse since i can stay there for hours,i also use shopping as an excuse saying im going to walmart to put on a layaway,really doing it earlier in the day or the same for grocerys,buying non perishables earlier in the day and keeping them in the trunk.i also sometimes leave before hubby gets home from work and leave a note that im taking the kids to the park or river ect..never telling him which one.i do this earlier with my kids then leave them with my sister so if hubby asks the kids they will say yes we went to the river/park.they are little so they dont have a sence of time and it works..