how do you deal with anniversaries
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how do you deal with anniversaries
| Wed, 09-17-2003 - 5:47pm |
MM told me today that tomorrow he can't go home late from work, because it's MM and W anniversary. I told him that i would rather that he wouldn't have told me at all. It hurt me. I rather that he lied instead. How do you go throught the day knowing about this? It just makes me so upset thinking about it. How do i even speak to him tomorrow? What do i say to him when he calls me? It makes me sick just thinking about both of them together, and i know they will be probably tomorrow... How do i go throught this, and how do i talk to him tomorrow? How do people like us in EMA go through this and how to you react to MM on a day like that? Should i just be distant?

And no you should not be distant. You should act the way you feel. If you feel mopey and sad and insecure, don't act happy and cool. Tell him how you feel. Don't expect him to be able to DO anything about it. But you should communicate.
I just want to tell you that your feelings are understandable and it's a hard situation. Their anniversary probably isn't important to him and he'd rather be with you. My MM just had his anniversary with his w , and he spent the day with me, although I did go with him to buy a gift-- a nice one, I might add. I was very jealous and it hurt that he was giving that to her. I really wished he had bought me a gift as well, but he didn't. I was hurt but I understand that he had to go home with something since that is how he got the day away to be with me. I did make sure he had so much sex that by the time he got home, he wouldn't be able or wanting to have sex with her...I know that was bad on my part but I couldn't stand the thought of them being together. Just know that all his thoughts were most likely about you. And if sex did occur he was probably thinking of you as well. Tell him how you feel about the situation, don't put blame on him, but communicate your feelings, I'm sure he will be sympathetic and understanding of your feelings.
~Wishing~
I deal with it the same way my OM deals with my anniversary or birthday or Christmas or any other day he wishes he could be with and can't. We wish each other a happy day, get on about our own business, and are happy for whatever makes the other happy.