How do you do it?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2008
How do you do it?
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Sat, 01-03-2009 - 10:05pm

How do you deal with the periods of NC?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 3:33am

NC SUCKS!!! I am S w/ a MM, and there are times when I want to be w/ him, and I can't. We have a child together so I can call when I want for the most part, but seeing him is a different story. The only time we go completely NC is when he pisses me off, and I don't take his calls.

If your considering getting into an A, perhaps you should reconsider. The A game is a rough one, and not for the faint of heart. The rules of normal dating do not apply, and it can be a harrowing experience. You will get higher than you ever have, but when you come crashing down (and you will) there is no low, lower. That's why on here you will hear an A referred to as a rollercoaster, because the ups and downs are constant.

I don't know what type of problems that you face in your marriage, but maybe if you took inventory you might find that they are problems that can be fixed. Trust me whatever your problems in your M are, it would probably be easier to fix them then to become involved in an A.

Good Luck.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 6:15am

NC sucks!! If you are still considering , i would suggest read as many posts here as possible and see how much pain we go through.It is worth it for some while for some its a never ending pain till we see our AP.its best related to drug addiction.

good luck in whatever you chose but NC sucks,for sure!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-04-2009
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 6:21am
ya just find a way...its the nature of affairland
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 8:35pm
Thank you for your advice. I have been living