How DO you DO it?
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How DO you DO it?
| Thu, 11-06-2003 - 1:34pm |
I have been reading your posts for quite some time now and quite frankly I do not for the life of me understand how you do this day in and day out. Months and even years.
I think alot of you women short yourself. I have been on both sides, I have been a cheater and the cheated on. It is called Karma.
I would not nor could I spread myself that thin. How can you be just satified with just your MM coming and going and controling all aspects of your time together.
I am not bashing here I am trying to undetstand.
When I was cheating I did not think about what this was doing to my spouse. But I can tell you when it happened to me, I knew exactly how my spouse felt and it was very hurtful.
I have so many questions to ask. How do you know your MM wife is all that bad you have one side information.
He cheats because you enable him to cheat. Let us be real. If you and every other woman in world would walk away they wouldn't be cheating.
They would have no one to cheat with.
I cheated because I wanted to, for a thrill. I was a fool. How can you have any self esteem when you get so little in return.
I feel for you.
I sure would like someone to explain this to me.
I think alot of you women short yourself. I have been on both sides, I have been a cheater and the cheated on. It is called Karma.
I would not nor could I spread myself that thin. How can you be just satified with just your MM coming and going and controling all aspects of your time together.
I am not bashing here I am trying to undetstand.
When I was cheating I did not think about what this was doing to my spouse. But I can tell you when it happened to me, I knew exactly how my spouse felt and it was very hurtful.
I have so many questions to ask. How do you know your MM wife is all that bad you have one side information.
He cheats because you enable him to cheat. Let us be real. If you and every other woman in world would walk away they wouldn't be cheating.
They would have no one to cheat with.
I cheated because I wanted to, for a thrill. I was a fool. How can you have any self esteem when you get so little in return.
I feel for you.
I sure would like someone to explain this to me.

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It's not for the sex. It's for the human compassion. The touch of someone else. Knowing someone cares means the world. I used t lay in bed and cry myself to sleep because H was so close and wouldn't touch me.
Divorce is the answer but I need to think of my children also.
Desperate people do desperate things. I'm glad for you have never felt the hopelessness that I have felt or the loneliness that makes you want to die.
I ruined there life for my self reasons. You can't excuse any of this... be honest with yourself.
If you are unhappy, you get only one life in this world, why spend it unhappy and miserable.
It took me years to put my life back on track and to forgive myself for that mistake. But to sit here and say how unhappy you are when you have choices and don't say you don't because you do. You hang on to an unhappy marriage because your too afraid to go it by yourself. Been there done that.
Don't give me your excuses you can't fool another cheater.
Sorry I am attackign you and that is not what I mean to do. I have been through alot and also been cheated on by the very person I cheated with. Three years later guess what they were cheating on me and I did not want to see it but when it came out everyone knew, friends, family it was humilating so now Karma has made me see what I did to my spouse. I hate the fact I cause someone else that kind of pain.
So now let me ask again how do u do it?
gurl
Edited 11/6/2003 3:26:25 PM ET by littlesecert
But then againthese guys are seeing you so they must be getting something out of it. I just hate to see you girls selling yourself short.
Everyone servers to be loved and loved for themselves, don't you ever feel like just a booty call? Been there done that too BTW.
You can do what ever you what of course, I just couldn't do it for as long as you have. I would always want more more more and don't you think you deserve to be with a guy who is going to respect you and your body and be with you and just you. I think your getting the short end of the stick.
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