How do you feel after time away w/spouse
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How do you feel after time away w/spouse
| Fri, 05-07-2004 - 1:38pm |
I just came back from a long weekend with my H and some of our mutual friends. I went into the trip feeling extremely brave and excited about ending the marriage and being with the other person full time.
However, after a few days away with the H, from our normal routine, I found myself really fearful of making such a big decision and also more sad than I had been. After being back for a week and spending 3 days with the other person, those fearful feelings are starting to fade.
Have any of you experienced this? Or can anyone help me understand what this might be?

IMHO
PG
you, and only you, can analyze your M/R and figure out if it isn't right for you. if you're just bored and lost the spark, then work that out and read some good sex books or rent some videos. but if you know you're not in love or even love your H, or those some kind of abuse -- physical, emotional -- then you should make the break and work toward a happier life for yourself and set your H free to find a happier life too (although he may not see it that way when and if you actually end the M).
think about what you really need from a R to make you happiest. and whether or not you should stay with H to get that happiness or whether the OM will be the source of that happiness. and btw, you need to start from within yourself to be happy, not depend upon someone else (a man for instance) to make you happy. the right man just makes you happier!!
good luck,
life