How do you find time to see AP?
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How do you find time to see AP?
| Sat, 09-06-2008 - 10:41pm |
i am struggling here because AP and i only get to see each other for small amounts of time. I am married with a 1 yr old and he has a serious girlfriend and she is a psycho. he cannot text or call me as she is on his plan and checks the bills. so we settle for using emails unknown to anyone else and we email constantly during the work week, but on weekends while we are entertaining our "real lives" the emails are few and far between. anyway, the only time we are able to see each other is a brief (read: 20 mins) meeting at lunch in a store parking lot in our cars. that happens about 3 out of the 5 days. and sometimes he meets me after my night class on tuesdays. those meetings are a little more intimate, but not much. we were able to spend about 4 hours a night for 2 weeks together while my H was on a work trip the previous month. i long for those nights again. it sucks so bad not to be able to be that way with him anymore. i need some ideas on how to get him to make some excuses to his gf and ways to excuse myself from everyday life without making it obvious. i NEED to see him more. how do you ladies do it? or do most of your struggle too?

You're getting a lot more contact than I do. Perhaps you need to take a step back and understand that you get what you get and he gives you all he can give you. If you push too hard you'll push him away. If he has to start telling all sorts of lies to get away from the GF then you are creating a recipe for getting caught. If you are in an A with emotional attachment, then you nearly always end up wanting more than you have. If you want to stay in your A then you need to learn to settle for what you can get. I guess it's the downside of being in an A.
I know I want more and more with my AP, but understand he gives me all he can with safety and I'm prepared to deal with that. If at some point I find I can't deal with that anymore, then it will be time to consider ending it with him.
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OM and I were very creative at finding ways 2 spend time together:
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I'm sorry, but I get kind of amused every time I read post from girls complaining when they can't see their AP more than 2-3 times a week.
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