how do you handle it?

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Registered: 03-08-2009
how do you handle it?
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Sun, 03-08-2009 - 6:45pm
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Registered: 10-27-2008
Sun, 03-08-2009 - 10:22pm

Hi Alice

Let me tell you if you are like me as it sounds like you are....in the AP for LOVE over lust the weekend, birthdays, special event..etc never get easy. I am 4 years into am AP and find myself having a harder time today then in the first year. How do I get through the weekends well not very good at times. I have 2 friends who know all but for the most part I reserve them for the weekends when Ap and I end it on a fight of some sort. Lust is easy Love is hard. My best recomendation is to always keep the communication lines open to AP and trll them how you feel. My experiance has been for the most part she responds with kindness on a monday. But there are sometimes she does't get it but atleast I get it off my chest. I have found many times I miss read things and talking works them out. I too fid that I want to end it so don't keep getting hurt it's just i Love her so much. :-)

N BW2G

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Registered: 03-08-2009
Sun, 03-08-2009 - 10:40pm

hello kindred spirit,

we are in roughly the same situation, although i am still in the emotional affair stage, but dangerously close to the next step. and the jealously and hurt and uncertain future is killing me. would you be willing to share any good advice you get from you post? i am so desperate for help, guidance etc. i used to be a smart successful woman who was happily married. and now i am a pathetic distracted fool who cannot stop thinking about this new man whom i am deeply in love with. how did i let this happen?

thanks for any help advice.

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Registered: 04-21-2003
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 5:46pm

The weekends arent so bad for me, for the most part we talk everyday. The hard part this year was Christmas and New Years. I knew he had to be with his family and I was pretty grumpy about it. For my Birthday this year we were together and I get him this year for his birthday, we are going out of town together. :) I have accepted he spends time with his W and I know he

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Registered: 10-23-2008
Mon, 03-09-2009 - 6:08pm

AP & I are both M and yeah weekends suck!! But for the most part I just keep busy with the things I would normally do on the weekends whether I was in an A or not. We aren't usually able to talk on the weekends anyway so it makes it a