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How do you know?
| Sun, 03-28-2004 - 8:38am |
I have been involved with OM in the A for about 4 months now. Before that we were good friends. Now, I find myself having strong feelings for him beyond friendship. I would even venture to call those feelings love. My dilemma is that OM has this thing where he feels the need to remind me constantly that we are "just friends". I have told him that I know, and yet he still insists on bringing it up in every conversation. I am confused because I don't know if he is doing this to remind me, or to convince himself.
Also, how do you know if the OM truly has feelings for you? My OM calls/e-mails/text messages me at least 10 times a day. His voice softens when he answers the phone and it's me. He worries about me if I have a bad day or am not feeling well. He tries to make me laugh when he knows I am down. He has told me in the past that he feels almost "too comfortable" with me, and that it scares him, and that he looks forward to our time together. He also said he misses me when we are apart. Does he have feelings for me beyond "just friends"? How can I tell without coming out and asking him?

Hi icirce.
Hot
I guess I'll have to call him out on it next time he brings it up! :) Thanks again!
Circe
I know the odds are not good here. Someone else here (Julietsfate or geek_chic or whoever) eluded to this once; but what do you do when you find out the person who you were just physically interested in is way more than that? That they truely are that someone special you may never found until now? Turn your back and walk away? No, I don't think so. Life is too short. I hope it works out for the best, for all of us.
:)
Circe
You know what's going on here, so does he. You haven't thrown out the L word yet have you? I guess everyone looks at that a little differently but OM may not be quite ready to hear that yet. It's kinda like a nuclear weapon. You don't use it unless the situation mandates it, so you may want to stop just short of that for now even though you may feel that way. I think if you give this time, you'll get your chance to drop it, or it may get dropped on you!
Let me know how you find out from you OM IF you are just friends, etc... I could use some advice.
V.
Today he e-mailed me at work about 4 or 5 times, mostly work/b.s. stuff, and to tell me he was meeting his brother after work for some wings and beer. He hasn't called or text messaged yet today though, which is kind of odd...I'm overanalyzing things now, I think! lol I think I'm going to just back off a bit and see what he does. I'll let him call me. Usually he does by now, but who knows...