How do you people do it?!?!
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How do you people do it?!?!
| Wed, 10-20-2010 - 9:00pm |
Those of you who openly admit you love each other, who get to see each other regularly...how can it not mess you up?

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Oh one more thing...lol....I have also been thinking about how leaving H would change all aspects of my life, including my A.
I think it's different for everyone, Jane.
For me, it's harder having the feelings out there and acknowledged for sure!
anotherseyes
anotherseyes
You make sense. Sorry to hear you are sick!
Okay, I'll contribute what I can,but you know this is all pretty new for me Jane.
Benska-Oh, yeah, your type of R would mess me up BADLY!
All the best with your surgery tomorrow Jane. I hope it's nothign serious. As far as your question, Iknow I was checked out of this M a long time ago. If I wasn't I wouldn't have even entertained an idea of an A. I was gone long before AP came into the picture.If anything, he makes me realize what I have been missing, closeness intimacy, passion and I don't want to spend the rest of my life without that. How and when I am going to dosomethign about it, I don't know,but rightnow this is making me feel very good. I know the
Jersey-Thank you!
I have a different perspective as it's not being honest and open with feelings/emotions towards each other in the past that has resulted in AP and I having an A now. I don't think I could continue the A if either of us felt we had to reign in our emotions...so no being open doesn't mess me up it's actually quite liberating. Mine is a LDA so I don't get to see AP regularly and I always want more time with him, I don't know if that would be different if we saw each other weekly or daily.
My M is not good, we don't argue anymore but I put that down to getting my needs met by AP now, so in a way the A has improved my M. I don't like my H to touch me either but felt that way before my A started and is down to the lies and disrespect he showed to me following my discovery of his own A with a co-worker. In a way I don't feel like I'm 'cheating' on him because during MC when he continued to say he had done nothing wrong, despite hard proof of his A, I told him that if the oportunity arose for me to have a similar relationship with another man like the one he had with his co-worker then I would go for it...so I don't feel any guilt. I've thought about leaving, and it would be the 'right' thing to do but I'm dependant on H financially, there are family issues that make it impossible right now and the thought of unravelling 36 years of M is quite daunting, and not something I feel ready to face at the moment...
I may be a bit late in sending you my best wishes re your surgery, but I hope it all goes well and you make a speedy recovery.
Kat
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