How do you tell him?
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How do you tell him?
| Tue, 08-19-2008 - 2:12pm |
So many of you might not know my story. I've been having marriage (like no sex for a year) and I made the choice to cheat with an old friend/someone I dated briefly. In the spirit of making bad choices, I lied to him and failed to mention I was married.
I want to come clean with him but I just don't know how. H and I had a discussion about our issues (minus this one) and we're on the fence about staying together, it's basically my choice. This guy hates drama and he trusts me and I just feel like the biggest jerk ever. I know the chances of him ever wanting to talk to me again after I tell him are slim to none, and that's fine because I brought this on myself. I just don't really know HOW to tell him.

You seem fine with the idea of the A ending if you tell him the truth, so why not end it anyway and walk away without him ever knowing?
If, however you want to continue, then tell him and hope for the best outcome, he may surprise you. better that than get involved further then he finds out and the fallout could be much worse.
Good luck whatever you decide
I'm not really fine with the idea of it ending, it's just, after lying to him I would understand if he would want to. Sometimes I wish I could just be divorced and date him, and if I did divorce you are so right that it would be cruel to try and keep this going and then down the line somehow try to explain that I was actually married.
I really like him and he trusts me, which sucks in a way. I know I have to, I just don't know what words to use that will cause the least pain because there probably aren't any.
louyblue23
I can offer some advice... my AP is lying to me about being married.
lost I'm so sorry he's doing that to you. I'm sorry I ever did that. If he asked me like you did I would be totally honest. It's just hard now that I've lied.
The thing now is, we haven't talked for a while. Usually we text everyday, even just a hey, and talk about twice a week on the phone, but I've only gotten one "hey" from him in over a week now. It kills me. I might not ever have to tell him . . . :(