How does it feel to be OW/OM?
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How does it feel to be OW/OM?
| Tue, 08-04-2009 - 11:03pm |
I'm trying to understand how it feels to wait for someone to get divorced.
I am a MW and AP has been impatient and making demands for me to leave my husband. I am so unhappy because I'm stuck in a marriage for financial reasons and my AP is playing the field, which is tearing me apart.
He is distant at times and unavailable, while I drop everything for him and support him more than I do my H. Why can't he see things my way? Is it unreasonable?
Or should I see things more his way?

Hi Chilli, well i dont know if i can be of help but id like to put in my two C if you dont mind. Ive been on this board now for a couple of years. In A for about the same length of time. We declare love for one another, we talk about the future together, he makes me feel 100% all the time and never gives reason for me to doubt his actions or words.
But and their is a But, i was unhappy in my m if i wasnt i wouldnt be here and most of all deceiving my H. After reading these boards ive realised its not about the OP or your AP its all about YOU meaning Ourselves. We have the power to do what we beleive to make us happy its just finding that out within ourselves and waking up and smelling the coffee has they say. Like you i never thought i could leave due to various reasons, finance, sick son, hurting people (dont we already do that except they dont know). I decided enough is enough and regardless of where AP and I are at or end up, it has to be about me and the kids. The end of the day nice house, nice car, nice food in cupboard etc. etc mean nothing if your miserable, so i decided it doesnt matter if i cant afford steak il have beans ...........but if i can wake up smiling and conscience free, and if i can go to bed looking forward to tomorrow then i know its worth it. Somehow things do work out and you know the fear of the unknown is actually worse than the unknown.
Your ap may not see it from your point, if your having a affair with him then maybe he cant see why your in your marriage anyway and money and finances have only the value that we put on them.
Good luck hun
SS
"be yourself, disguise not, for your a truly unique beautiful being"
"be yourself, disguise not, for your a truly unique beautiful being"
Sorry for being so blunt in my post to you on your other thread.
Chill, I was the single OW with MM.
Thankyou hun thats so nice of you
SS
"be yourself, disguise not, for your a truly unique beautiful being"
"be yourself, disguise not, for your a truly unique beautiful being"