How does a man avoid getting caught

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Registered: 03-28-2004
How does a man avoid getting caught
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Mon, 04-26-2004 - 8:03am
A little while ago someone wrote "I'm smart enough not to get caught". It was dawning on me over the weekend that I'm NOT that smart. Heck, the mess my personal life is in should be proof enough! ;)

Anyway, women have that sixth sense (or so I'm told). Have any of you women caught your guys in A's? And if so, what was the give away? I do a good job of covering my tracks (i.e appointments, clear computer cache, don't call from home, no panties in the gove box) but, the stuff I don't know how to avoid is her perfume, stray hairs, passenger car seat in the wrong position or that far away look in my eye! I'll bet there's a bunch more beyond that that I'm forgetting. And now I'm wondering if my wife doesn't know or just doesn't care. I'd be fine for the doesn't care!

Anyway, since women are sensitive to smells and "things" that are out of place, I'd be appreciative hints along that lines.

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Registered: 04-26-2004
Tue, 04-27-2004 - 9:53am
My mm and I are never in his car. We are always in my car. Before he gets out, he always checks for lipstick, makeup, etc. He says he never notices my perfume on him or his clothes. Personally, I don't think his w much cares if he's invovled in an A, but that's my opinion.

The cell phone thing is hard. He got a very high bill the other day, and she asked why it was so high. He said he's been talking to clients, which is sometimes true. I think he is about to go in for a separate pre-paid cell phone, reserved just for me. However, that may be all talk.

Also, she didn't know for a long time that I was no longer working at the same company with him. So when she'd ask where he'd been at lunch, he told her he was with me, discussing work...which was partly true.

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Registered: 12-15-2003
Tue, 04-27-2004 - 4:32pm
I am a lurker and a BS who should not be lurking but is.....sadly I really do not think you can keep from getting caught....eventually all A's are discovered and most wives already know something is up but they keep telling themselves that their spouse would never do such a thing...

I know because that is how I was....dh was the last person on this earth that I thought would ever hurt me....he was a man that was brought up with strong values and never would hurt a fly....

the signs were all there I just did not want to see or believe them until one day he slipped.....A's are discovered because it is just too darn hard to lead two lives....

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