How to gain perspective?

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Registered: 11-17-2008
How to gain perspective?
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Mon, 11-17-2008 - 11:37am
I have been having affair for 4 months with a much older man(both married to spouses with sever health issues, I have 3 kids, he has none).
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Registered: 10-03-2008
Mon, 11-17-2008 - 1:25pm

find time to do things...get your nails done...get your toes done..go christmas shopping..if you can't afford to shop completely put things on layaway...read a book..go out with the girls..do a metalife night once a week...take some hours out for yourself to do your favorite thing/s with no interruption...go get a drink alone at the bar or sports bar..go buy a pair of nice new panties...get a new tube of lipstick...treat yourself....most of my girls are married but they love GNO (girls night out)..we do it once a month..celebrate you and all that you are...


if you consume yourself with him you will lose yourself and it takes twice as long to regain yourself. however, don't be ashamed of your emotions they are what they are..and no he probably doesn't hold her like he holds you because you are not her...get me..doesn't mean he doesn't hold her..just means he doesn't do it like he does you...embrace everything you love about the relationship and deal with it if you want to remain in it...that's a decision only you can make...emotions can make you do some nutso things so be careful. as to not end up like me...having an XAP but, still in the relationship....it's a strange doing with me and mine..but anyhow....


i don't

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss