how to get distracted from AP?
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| Thu, 07-08-2010 - 3:35pm |
Hello everyone.
Yesterday I spent a couple of hours with AP. He was very sweet, attentive and loving. And of course, today I am missing him a lot. I went shopping with kids, tried to stay busy on line, but nothing really helps. It's like he is imprinted on my brain. No matter what I do, he is always on my mind. However, I recently noticed that I am able to find some comfort when I am around my DH. I don't stop thinking about AP, but it just doesn't feel so unbearable when I am sitting next to DH with his hands around me. Unfortunately, DH is at work now and will not come home until tomorrow night. So I am on my own with all these feelings. I am so tired of feeling this way and dealing with all my feelings. Last summer, I was the happiest stay at home mom. I was enjoying my kids, watching TV, and reading books. Now I am a depressed addict who can't stop thinking about a man I didn't even like a year ago. I keep asking myself will I ever be the way I was before A. Why As are so different from dating? I dated a lot of guys and never was addicted to them. Well, I guess there is not much I can do now, but to learn how to live with all the crazy feelings and find ways to stay distracted.
Does anyone else find comfort with DH while missing AP? What works for you best?

Hi Freedom,
I always like reading your posts because you sounds so much like me as if you were in my thoughts reading my mind.
I wish I knew how to distract ourselves from our AP. I just do like you and try to keep busy as much as possible. I try not to have too much "me" time because then I start to think and then drive myself insane. It does help when H & I have have a great weekend and go on outings which are fun. I still think of Ap but not nearly as much.
I also felt that I was never addicted to any guy I dated but I guess it all comes with having someone we are not suppose to have. Its a rush, forbidden and makes it that much more taboo. I wish I could go back a year and a half ago before the A and be that woman who had it all together but now realizing I don't and have to do a whole lot of sould searching as to why I'm cheating on a great man. This question will haunt me forever...
Much peace & Love,
Rayne
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Hi there
I am just replying to your first post (not had time to read the rest yet) and a resounding
No comfort from H: in fact, when I'm really missing AP, H seems to be more irritating to me than ever ;).
I think this whole A business is different from dating because it's "forbidden", it's not something we're "supposed" to have.
anotherseyes