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| Mon, 12-22-2003 - 12:23am |
I had an affair on my husband of 3 months with an ex-boyfriend of mine. Before the affair things were going bad. Lots of arguments and fighting and accusations. We were living in different states at the time because hes in the military. The distance was creating stresses in our relationship and the accusations began long before I had the affair. I am a photography student and I needed a model for an assignment. My ex came in to the studio to help me out. I dont know if it was the lure of the idea of being in school, being in front of a camera, or him standing there naked but somehow we got carried away and had sex. My husband found out two weeks ago and also found the pictures from that night. After a long day and night of pain, crying, and yelling we decided to work things out. I love him so much and really want to be with him the rest of my life. We are tryin to work it out but I dont know what is going to heal the pain that he feels as well as myself. He gets angry sometimes which is normal for the situation but I just wonder if it is ever going to stop. To hurt me he set up a new online profile stating he was single and he was also lookin at other womens profiles in the area. After I found that he told me that he only did it to stab me like I did him. I want this to work out but sometimes I feel as though he wants me to leave him so he would look like the good guy cuz he tried to work it out but I didnt want to. He has not made it easy on me to stay. Nothing can change what I did or even excuse my actions. Is there anyone out there that can lend me some coping advice for my situation?

good luck
Edited 3/10/2004 5:08 pm ET ET by geek_chic