How I miss him!

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Registered: 05-01-2010
How I miss him!
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Wed, 08-18-2010 - 7:58pm

Well it has been 13 days and I MISS HIM!!! I know it is over, but my body is aching for his touch. I thought I was doing good, up until today, I seen his wife in the store today. It brought out all these emotions, I had to take a deep breath to bite my tongue. I wanted to ask how he was. I want to call him and ask him for one last memory.


I have to try harder not to think about him, I still wake up in the morning and think about him, I fall asleep thinking about him. I don't think I will ever get over him, it was 3 years and I still thought about him. I am wondering if he is thinking about me the way that I am thinking about him, is it easier for women to say good bye? I want to hear his voice, I want to feel his touch, I want to have those conversations that we had. I miss my friend and my lover, Sorry just had to get it all out and start back at square one. Thanks for reading!!

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Registered: 04-27-2010
Wed, 08-18-2010 - 8:22pm

I very much understand where you are. It does get easier. Seems to peak in intensity at about the 3 wk mark...then you may notice some good moments only to be thrown back into the abyss.


Eventually you will notice more and more good/better moments...take them all in to sustain you through the next round of despair. In time, the good moments/days will start to outnumber the bad ones. Time...and we're all different, but that seems to be the pattern. How long it takes is solely up to you :)


One piece of advice: If you're somewhere where you can be emotional, do. Meet it all head on...plow through it...cry, be angry, whatever. If you keep stuffing it down it will just keep jumping up and biting you in the behind :)


Be patient w/ yourself. It's going to take far longer than what you expect. You are grieving a loss and will go through all the stages of grief...google it and see what they are. We all go through them all, but in different orders and we tend to bounce back-and-forth between those stages before finally moving on. Best wishes...

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Registered: 03-29-2010
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 7:44am
I agree with Kimber. I have been where you are, and yes it does get better and you will get over him. Sure you might "think about him" even after you're over him, but it won't be the way you're thinking about him now. You'll recall a memory and it'll bring a smile without the pang of pain. Don't give in to the temptation to contact him! It will bring you right back to the beginning and thirteen days later you will feel the same as you do now. IF you move forward instead, you might feel a tad better in 13 days. This is all normal grieving - there is nothing to do but go through it sweetie. (((HUGS))) ♥

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