How to initiate this?

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How to initiate this?
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Wed, 04-29-2009 - 12:58pm

I am a 35 old mother of 2. My oldest is 4 and youngest is 8 weeks. My husband and I are constantly at odds over everything. Kids will do that to a marriage! I need someone to make me feel good.

There is a guy I want to be with (sexually speaking), he' also my doctor. He delivered both my kids and is the most caring man. He's a huge flirt, I can feel the sexual tension between us whenever I see him. The things he says off the cuff make me wonder if he sees me as more than a patient... I know, I know....he's my doctor, he's married and what the hell am I thinking? But I have to act on this and see if he feels the same. How can I initiate this? If he doesn't feel the same than I guess I end up losing him as my doctor (either way I lose himas doc) and I will be totally embarrassed.

I am attractive, educated... he's a little older (47) so it's not like I'm out of my league here...how should I approach this?

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Wed, 04-29-2009 - 11:16pm

Shadows- When you say your guess isn't going to be what I think it is. You mean an affair? Or his reaction if I initiate something?

Like I said, I feel something between he and I but I don't know how far he would take it. It's beyond an innocent flirtation. Also, I realize the whole patient falling for doctor "syndrome" that this could be, maybe it will pass, maybe it won't. We'll see how I feel a couple of months from now. I wasn't planning on initiating something tomorrow.

I realize how some of you have ended up in painful situations as a result of an affair. I'm not thinking that far ahead, as where it can end up. Just thinking about the fun, meaningless sex.

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Wed, 04-29-2009 - 11:35pm

When I say I don't think it will turn out like you think I mean that I doubt he will have an A with a patient. I think he might very well attribute this to flirtation nothing more while you feel it is beyond that.

As for meaningless sex and fun...well affairs aren't nearly as romantic or glamorous as they seem. Good luck

~Shadowz
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Thu, 04-30-2009 - 8:16am

ITA with HS..........she is totally on target.

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Thu, 04-30-2009 - 10:58am
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Edited 7/26/2009 10:46 pm ET by goblinqueen79
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Thu, 04-30-2009 - 5:18pm
OMG are you kiddin me?

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Thu, 04-30-2009 - 7:06pm

I don't think Flying's post was bashing or out of line. She posted her opinions is all. It's nice to see someone like Flying post some well thought out post around here and I didn't see anything on her post that might be offensive. We all have our own interpretations on how we take the meaning in each posts. Take what helps and leave what don't.

Now to the "original poster" of this thread. Sorry for the little (mini) hijack. But I will tell you what I always tell people who wants to know how to initiate an A. This Doc is older than you and is smart enough to be a doc. So, if he wants to take things further with you "he" will initiate it. However, the way I see it in this situation base on your posts, your reading more onto nothing. I agree with the chemical imbalance theory (because of the new born) and will advice you to give it time before you make a fool of yourself.

"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."

- Ramona L. Anderson




Edited 4/30/2009 7:10 pm ET by goddess_g2
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Fri, 05-01-2009 - 1:18am

Really, Raingirl? You would advise bobbie to try to start an affair with her doctor? With no qualms about consequences.

I am sorry you don't like it here, rain, but really I didn't see anything wrong with Flying's post either. I found it very realistic. Which is also support, you know. Telling someone realistically that they could be setting themselves up for a fall of major proportions.

~Shadowz
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Fri, 05-01-2009 - 9:52am
Sorry but I never said I would advise Bobbie
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Fri, 05-01-2009 - 12:39pm
Oh, sorry, I must have misread that on the other thread. Or something.
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Fri, 05-01-2009 - 1:13pm

Rain,


Hi.


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