How to know if he's interested

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Registered: 01-31-2004
How to know if he's interested
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Sat, 01-31-2004 - 5:45am
Hi, new to the boards, MW for 5 years, and I followed my H to Europe where he has work, and I started teaching English to a small group of his associates. He in NO way knows them the company is huge, has about 10,000 employees at this location alone.. but anyway, since I started there has been an immediate attraction for me, to one of the guys, lets call him Jan. Jan is living with someone and in our discussions (as a class) he's said that she is pushing them to get married, and there were lots of jokes as a class about not getting tangled in the broom closet during xmas parties. But just before xmas Jan was bringing me some jokes and then week later something he found on the internet about something i briefly mentioned the week before.

For new years I was going to an opera, and it was also televised. I know that Jan is kind of a fan, but i was blown away when i asked what they did for new years and he watched the 2 hr concert with his GF. He seemed quite please to tell me that though.

We often talk about movies and have so much in common its hillarious. I think i pick up on his vibes, but don't know how to push it. We also go to the same club sometimes, but we have NEVER seen eachother there. I was thinking thats the best place to get down to the real business. Once we talked about smoking and he doesn't smoke, but i said i always look for a cute guy and ask him for a cigarette, and he said, i should carry cigarettes, then with me when i go out. ( maybe joking though so he could meet ladies in general) I dpn't know.

I will have a 2 week break and was thinking about sending him an email during htat time. Just a general one. He's never given me his email addres, but its the same for the while company,i think if he bites then maybe we can see whats going on... any ideas

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Registered: 01-31-2004
Tue, 02-03-2004 - 6:54am
okay, so had my lesson on monday. no one could make it, but jan was there, and we chatted for a few minutes. I just came out and said, so when are we going to go to the club. He said, i don't know, i don't go too often.

i said, well, you used to , and its been a while so we should go.

he said, what would your husband say

i said, i'.m an adult, make my own choices, he won't mind.. ( and truth ladies, he won't he trusts me)

he said, well give me you email

i said, nope, here put your number in my phone

( so he did) and later i put mine in his phone

he said his gf is a bit suspicious, cause i brought some videos ( opera) ones for him to see a few months ago.

but he said he just needs a few days notice then we'll go.. i told him i can't wait to get him drunk.. he said he hardly drinks, but its in his blood, anyway, then i said i am a silly drunk, very talkative, he said he could imagine, then he had to go.

I think thats all clear now. I will see him two times next week, so won't call or message, but the end of the month, watch out..

thanks for advice

abi