how to let go?

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Registered: 09-23-2008
how to let go?
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Mon, 01-12-2009 - 5:28pm
So as a brief review, I'm a MM in an affair for 1 1/2 years w/ a co-worker (in a long-distance relationship). We were close (best) friends for about 3 years before the A. My marraige at the time the A started was in horrible shape. I said I would leave the M for her and she made it clear from the beginning that there was never a future long-term b/c she would never leave her BF. So I clearly am the needy one in the relationship. We've effectively ended everything except having to work together and play-nice, but I just can't deal with seeing her every day and be reminded what's over. How do I get closure, move on and not be completely ugly by poking holes in the realtionship x-AP has with her BF? Saying the things I think would be hurtful (even if I think they're true) w/no point other than being hurtful (b/c we're not going to be together)? I'm just trying to not lash out. How do I let go of someone I see 20 times a day?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
In reply to: jh3041
Tue, 01-13-2009 - 2:49pm

You may wish to try the EAS bbs (although I am sure you are welcome here too:)). There are alot of others like you

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Registered: 01-14-2009
In reply to: jh3041
Thu, 01-15-2009 - 1:39pm

I so know how you feel.