How long did you know you MM/OM befor...

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Registered: 04-14-2004
How long did you know you MM/OM befor...
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Sat, 05-08-2004 - 5:18pm

How long did you know you MM/OM before you were sexually intimate?



  • There has been no sexual intimacy yet
  • First few weeks
  • 1-3 months
  • 4-6 months
  • Almost a year
  • More than a year


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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2004
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 7:44am
We waited nearly three months.....and boy....let me tell you.....is was WORTH the wait! LOL

cl-noregretsyet (co-cl of MAS board)
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anonymous user
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 9:05am
About 6 weeks here.... we were relentless in our flirting and attraction for each other. We have since established a personal relationship, but wow the draw was so strong neither one of us could stop it!

:)

dd

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 2:00pm
It was very emotional and very beautiful and went on for hours... He was and is so tender and loving. He made me feel precious, wanted, desired and beautiful. I know this sounds corny but we held each other and cried... I had and have never been so unimagineably and completly in love. I fear I will hurt at some point, let's face it I have put myself in a very vulnerable position! But, I am thankful to know him and to love him. Being with him has made me strive to be a better person. He completes me, he challenges my intillect, makes me laugh, supports me and makes my knees weaker with every kiss. He sets my soul on fire and if we ended it tomorrow I would still thank God for every wonderful instant I spent with him.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2004
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 4:16pm
We knew each other for 2 years in a business capacity. During that third year, we just looked at each other during a business convention and realized that there was a connection there. We couldn't leave each other's side. After that, we increased our communication through e-mail and phone, saw each other 2 months later and kissed. He came back in town a month later and then it happened....:-)
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2004
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 2:02pm
We worked with eachother for 2 years. He was then layed off and that is when we realized how we felt about eachother. It took us 3 months, but we planned it and it is the most I have felt in so long. He makes me complete. He is back to work now so we get to see eachother on a daily basis.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-24-2003
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 6:07pm
It was about 4 months here I think.... MM met online... and we talked online and on the phone for a good 6 weeks before we decided to meet.

Sweet
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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-17-2004
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 7:07pm
I read some of your posts on how you last solong for example your "Sweet" that you havebeen seeing your "MM" for 4 years already how can you make it to 4yrs without getting caught and just in general i guess how can you make it last so long without feeling "Guilty" i have been in mine "EMA" for 1 year and we want to go as long as we can 4,6,8 even 10 years but how what's your secret?

Thanks...
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2004
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 8:23pm
Wow, over 80 hits on the poll. Where are all these people participating in the poll...must have a ton of lurkers.

Any way, thank you all for your insights, and messages here.

I have been with MM for almost four months now, we have not been intimate yet (intercourse). MM has said all along that we will take things slow, and he did not want to push me into anything unless or until I'm ready. I'm SO ready to make love with MM, I swear when the time comes, I think I could hurt him! But now that he seems ready to move forward, and I'm ready to move forward, I'm so fearful our intimacy will hurt the relationship by his feeling guilt. Guilt is something I won't feel, because I haven't struggled with a difficult marriage for all most 20 years. While I will never know if he will go into retreat or end things after we make love, I have some serious concerns about losing this kind and gentle man I have come to know. Something I don't want to happen.

I don't believe in "borrowing problems" but this has been weighing so heavily on my mind.

Has anyone experienced this before they became intimate with their MM/OM/MW/OW? How did you get past this.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-24-2003
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 12:43am

Hiya otherone,


oh! I have been caught!

Sweet
Co-Community Leader My

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-29-2004
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 9:59am
I have known my OM for over 10 years; we were friends at college. Last summer we reconnected as friends, and I quickly found out that he had been in love with me all that time. He had already been married a couple of years when I met him, no kids yet though (now he has 3 daughters). Anyway, we tried to keep our friendship platonic because we are both Christians (albeit not very good ones I guess) and we didn't want to hurt our families. In October, 3 months after we reconnected, we saw one another and were intimate. The foreplay was awesome, the intercourse not much so, and afterward totally sucked. Due to circumstances such as time (not much of it) and his feelings of guilt over his marriage and his job (he was on staff at a church) he was so upset afterward that he ran. But we worked through it. He is coming in 3 weeks (he'll be divorced as of June 21) and I cannot wait...we're going to do it right this time :)

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