How long did you know you MM/OM befor...

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Registered: 04-14-2004
How long did you know you MM/OM befor...
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Sat, 05-08-2004 - 5:18pm

How long did you know you MM/OM before you were sexually intimate?



  • There has been no sexual intimacy yet
  • First few weeks
  • 1-3 months
  • 4-6 months
  • Almost a year
  • More than a year


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Registered: 05-25-2004
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 12:32pm
Dear Hopeitsover:

Wow I really love hearing about happy endings. I really am smilling right now and I cannot wait for a day where I could say the same thing, I really do wish you both the best. My mom and dad are a result of EMA. She was in a very bad marriage with a horrible man who was not a happy drunk... My father stepped in, saved her and they ran away. They are now celebrating 35 years together!!! To this day they are best friends who do everything together. They are always cuddling, she is always in his lap. They behave like teenagers!!!

I know this is why they are so understanding of my "situation". I told them both and they are very excited. They both know that I have given everything to make my marriage work, yet another 14 yrs of marriage will not change a thing...Plans were in motion to leave before my MM. I would have gone anyway yet the strangest thing happened, God gave me my soul mate and I litterally feel blessed. I will not make another mistake...I am playing for keeps.

Good luck to you both!!!

LOL Kashmir
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Registered: 05-17-2004
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 1:45pm
Thanks for your reply its great to see how things can work out i our "EMA" so you were caught 10 months into your relationship.."WOW" were you caught like really bad???(Im like so courious..)Well its good to know that you have also tried to make things work in your Marriage i know what you mean my "MM" and I also know that we are both is this relationship because we enyoy sharing everything together. i have been in my "EMA" for 1 year already and its been great however "MM" got caught like 4 months into our "A" because "W" managed to get access to his E-mail password and of course my e-mails were there to make a long story short she forgave him but asked him to stop seeing me or having any kind of communication with me(Like you said "Knowning in his heart that was the biggest lie that he has said")He called me that same day to make me aware of the Drama she could end up makeing Ohhh and that she wanted to know who i was? where i lived and all my info.. she e-mailed me and called me all kinds of names that you can think about and said she wanted to know what kind of women her husband was cheating on her with and that she was going to find out who i was and was going to tell my "DH" what i was doing...(My response was that if she knew her husband good enough that she should know that he did not have bad taste and that if she really wanted to know more about me to ask her husband and then i tottally refused to continue any kind of conversation with her because i knew i could just make things worse.

"MM" Sent me an e-mail about 2 days after that telling me that he was sorry for the incident and that he needed to see me to talk to me in person about all this that was going on.. (I agreed) We did and well thats when we both figured that we just couldn't continue life without eachother so here we are 1 year later and still together and just making the best out of it..(However my "DH" does not have a clue about what happend or what is happening i mean sometimes he does tell me things like " Who were you talking to your boyfriend? or where you comming from seeing your boyfriend but he's just talk he seriously thinks that i would never have the courage to cheat on him...

(Because thats what i have told him) Anyways my whole point here is that i really want to make things last a long time with my "MM" without putting myself or him on the line of getting caught.. we only talk or see eachother 8-6 Monday-Friday and maybe once in a while on saturday mornings when we both get a chance..(Just to Play)lol..

Well the dilema now is that "W" is 4 months pregnant and the guilt trip is just haunting me,,, what to do.....



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