how long did you wait...?
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how long did you wait...?
| Thu, 05-28-2009 - 12:19am |
If you met your AP on a website, how long did you typically wait to meet them in person? I am a woman who is trying to be cautious, but at the same time, not overly cautious... Sometimes do you feel like you know someone over IM-ing after a few days.. sometimes does it take weeks?
I am trying to get over xap and find myself wanting to meet up quicker than I normally would, trying to fill the void...

Take your time dear...for me three months--same situation looking for a distraction from an xap kinda sorta...finding a friend and lover...don't rush it and BE SAFE!
If there is a connection you will know it...Good luck.
Don't count on "knowing" if there's a connection, many con men (and women) convince people that there's a "connection" when they're just after something.
But we run the risk of meeting people like that anywhere, not just the internet.
Follow your instincts about it. And make SURE someone knows that you're meeting this person, and everything you know about them. Meet in a very public place to start out with. Married women who don't normally share this sort of stuff with ANYONE are kind of vulnerable in these situations. But maybe you have an online friend that you can share with. Tell her or him that if they don't hear from you in a certain amount of time, to go to someone in your real life with the information. Most likely that's being TOO cautious, but better TOO cautious than not cautious enough.
I would recommend this with anyone meeting a stranger, whether it's from online or some other means of meeting.
Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.
You've got a lot of choices. I
Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.
You've got a lot of choices. I
Edited 7/26/2009 10:50 pm ET by goblinqueen79
I met my AP online and we waited 3 months to meet in person, though the fact that we are very long-distance also played into that.