How long does the euphoria last?

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Registered: 03-26-2004
How long does the euphoria last?
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Mon, 04-05-2004 - 8:17pm
I got involved with my OM a few months ago, and it was the sheer rush, the high of "new love" that drove the affair (at least for me).

Now I'm feeling like it's wearing off a little bit, for both of us. Or maybe real life is intruding. And I want to feel that high, forever. I want the fairytale!

What is everyone else's experience? How long does the affair last (this is my first, after 25 years of marriage)? Does it change over time? Do we get bored and split up?
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Registered: 06-24-2003
Mon, 04-05-2004 - 9:27pm

Hi again sky cat,


I know for me... it's never worn off... I still get so damn excited to see MM... and after 4 years... I still look forward to his daily emails and my weekly phone call.


Certainly things have changed... we both have changed... and we are much more comfortable and open with each other with pretty much everything... but it still has not taken away the excitement.


Even the sex... I feel that it just keeps on getting better and better even though we know each others bodies just like we would in a normal everyday relationship... but there is something that just makes it feel almost like the first time... every time.


I don't think I will... but if I ever gte bored with MM... I think I would certainly have to reasses my situation... and maybe bring things down a little... but for me... full steam ahead :)

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Registered: 11-19-2003
Mon, 04-05-2004 - 9:30pm
what euphoria??
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Registered: 06-29-2003
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 12:22am
I don't know about you funnyface, but I think I can speak for the majority of us, that it's that euphoria that keeps us involved with our MM. After 5 years, I still get an absolute adrenaline rush when I see and kiss him. If the overall R is good, that feeling lasts, even though the dynamics of the R may change. Just my take on it, anyway.
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Registered: 04-01-2004
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 2:06am
I have been in an EMA for 2 years nearly and it's as great now as it ever was if not more so ----

I get tongue tied and butterflies just looking at him, touching him, even just giggly like a school girl when he calls -

It's amazing -

We talk about it and if we lose that "feeling" we need to call things off - but so far for neither of us has that spark faded - if nothing else it's gotten stronger !!!

Kikki

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Registered: 02-16-2004
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 8:03am
I get so excited just talking to my MM and getting emails from him.....forget the incredible rush when I see him! You should see my reaction when that little IM box flashes on my computer screen. The euphoria is what keeps me going....keeps me wanting to be with him. Not a day goes by (not even an hour) where he's not on my mind. The euphoria has evolved into love for me and it is such a great high!
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Registered: 03-21-2004
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 8:42am
9 years so far in the A. The euphoria is different now. But he still has a way with me just like he did 9 years ago.

His call, his touch, his wink, his smile and his laugh still turn me on.

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 9:22am
Hi Ladies and Sky Cat. The euphoria when I see him is still there, my heart beats a mile a minute. And like some other say, the sex gets better and better as we know each other very well intimately now after seeing each other regularly for 2+ years now.

If it started to wear off, well then I would reassess the situation.

Don't get me wrong, there are changes to the R as you go along. At the beginning he said alot more things that were "dating" type of remarks. Now we've progressed to occasional compliments and little things he says, its settled down into a more natural relationship, rather than him trying to win me over with flattering remarks (of course, when he calls me extremely sexy, I still am thrilled by that)!! Enjoy yourself.

Dusty
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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 9:23am
It's reassuring to hear so many of you say that the rush is still there after time. I find myself having these tremendous swings, from euphoria when we're together, or when he calls, to misery when my mind starts to race that it might be over or that he's less into it than I am. But I'm on the rollercoaster, so I may as well enjoy the ride, the fear and the rush are what comes with, I guess.