How long have u been in UR ema?

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Registered: 07-05-2003
How long have u been in UR ema?
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Sat, 08-30-2003 - 5:10pm
HI all...

I was just wondering, how long have you been in your EMA?

Do the 2 of you plan to be together, exclusively, one day?

thanks =)

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Registered: 08-26-2003
Sun, 08-31-2003 - 1:36pm
We've been together about six months, although I've known him for years.

We are both married and neither of us would leave our spouse and family. We enjoy what we have together immensely and take each day as it comes.

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Sun, 08-31-2003 - 7:24pm
Hi lexy,

I've been in my EMA now for just over 3 years... I never for a moment thought it would last this long... but I now never think for a moment if it will end.

I've always felt that MM would never leave his wife... no matter what and he's always stated that he will never leave her for another woman. As for me... while I was close to leaving DH a couple of years back... it's not the case anymore... and I'm still working on keeping my family together. I'm happy when he's happy... and I think the same can be said for him.

I feel I have something special with MM... and I enjoy what we have here and now... we don't talk of love or a future together... but we never talk about not being able to see each other... it's just not part of the big picture.

I must admit... that yes I dream of a future growing old together... but that's all it is... a dream and I understand and realise what we have together and as long as we can both deal with that... then why can't we love each other for what we do have.

I know it's wrong of me to want both my H and my lover... but at this point in my life I actually feel that I need both otherwise without one or the other... I could fail in both.

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Registered: 07-18-2003
Sun, 08-31-2003 - 7:37pm
Hi,

I'm not really sure how to answer this. This time we've been together 8 months, that is after almost a year and a half of NC. I guess it really started almost 4 years ago, but I'm sure if you asked his xW she would say it's been going on for 16 years. We've been friends that long and OM has admitted that he's loved me for 15 years.

We have a hard enough time planning time alone together, let alone the future. We have spoken vaguely of what things might be like if I weren't M, but having been friends for so long and knowing each other's deep dark secrets, we realize we may drive each other crazy if we ever really get together. I know that he will be in my future, I just don't know in what capacity. The one thing I know for sure is that he always comes back, and that makes me one lucky girl!

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Mon, 09-01-2003 - 6:32pm
I've been in my EMA for 14 months. Neither of us have any intention of leaving our partners. We both just enjoy our times together very much.
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Registered: 04-24-2003
Tue, 09-02-2003 - 10:39am
We've known each other just over 10 years. Dated off and on for 4, then no contact for 5, and now here we are in this ema for just over a year.

We talk about how things would be if we were "exclusive", but we know it won't happen, at least not for a long time. However, we never say never.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-02-2003 - 12:28pm
hey lexy -- we've been going strong for 3+ years and we're closer than ever. as for being together one day, who knows! we would be together now if that scenario didn't involving hurting both our partners and leaving town together. neither one of us is ready for that.

take care,

gurl

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-02-2003 - 12:32pm
wow capries -- you spend more time with your MM than i spend with my BF (he's my primary relationship)! you are a lucky girl.

gurl

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Registered: 08-08-2003
Tue, 09-02-2003 - 12:42pm
I have been in my A for almost 5 years now. We just enjoy what we have together. I think we both daydream about it but know that we could not do that to either of our spouses, kids or the rest of our families.

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