How long will it last?

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Registered: 01-30-2009
How long will it last?
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Thu, 04-09-2009 - 9:31pm
I'm a MW in an A with a MM for 7 months now.
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Registered: 10-18-2008
Thu, 04-09-2009 - 11:23pm

Poor Rose...I know just how you feel about your marriage.

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Registered: 08-08-2005
Fri, 04-10-2009 - 4:37pm

rose,

i have no words of wisdom.

only sympathy for being in a long-term marriage gone stale. unless you are there, it is hard to understand the investment of family and friends and clubs and a lifetime of "stuff" and memories that are hard to consider destroying. there isn't enough time or energy to recreate it all.

how long will it last? depends on the risk of discovery and the endurance of your attraction to each other. who knows? i went in with no expectations and have received only pleasant surprises.

<> for the former, that's a good place to start. for the latter, it doesn't matter. the only time i start to wonder about home is when i start to wonder where he would rather be - which means i wonder what choice he would make, which takes me to a place i do not want or need to be.

<> i remember thinking that, too. and it comes up every so often when our circumstances hit the need for an alteration. but he reassures me and makes it work so ... here i still am. and as long as your MM fills a need for you and vice versa, you will probably hang on, too.

but when the day comes your fear of discovery or your turmoil in the A outweighs the pleasure of his company, then you will make that decision.

Mrs.

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Registered: 03-19-2009
Fri, 04-10-2009 - 5:41pm

I just wanted to say how impressed I am with the advice here. You ladies are awesome and caring.


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Registered: 01-30-2009
Sat, 04-11-2009 - 9:51am

Ohsolonely -


Thank you sooo much for your post!

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Registered: 12-15-2003
Sat, 04-11-2009 - 1:54pm

all As are different and their lifespans are diff.

~k
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Registered: 08-17-2008
Tue, 04-14-2009 - 2:08am
hi mom my
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Registered: 06-19-2008
Tue, 04-14-2009 - 8:53am
i did not read the entire post but i guess you are asking about the time frame of an A.They can last a lifetime as well,like mine.