How to make the right decision?
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How to make the right decision?
| Fri, 10-09-2009 - 7:31pm |
Sorry this may be a bit long but would like some advice from people who have been in my position. I have been married for 20+ years and have a 15 yr old son. I have been having an affair with a divorced father of two for the last 2 1/2 years. We live about 1 hour apart but see each other at least once a week. My marriage has been horrible for many years and I do not want him to touch me. It makes me kinda sick to my stomach if he even says the work sex to me. On the other hand my bf and I have sex regularly. Well recently I found out my H has been talking to a lady

Yes you don't really have the right to be mad at your H but finding out he is talking to someone can sting a lil. My H had a GPS tracker put on my car too and I still resent him for it. Long story lol.
All I can say is that if you are going to leave your marriage don't leave it for your AP. Making a second relationship work and adding in kids to become a blended family can be stressful. I would just take some time and really think things thru. Ask yourself where you want to be in 5 yrs. Come up with a plan and execute it. You might regret rushing things...if you are meant to be with your AP it will all work out in the end and he'll be by your side.
You might be happy being single!
From what you have said your M seems beyond repair, nor do you seem to want to work on it.
Thanks everyone for the words of advice. My H and I are separated and have been a couple of months now. He wants to work things out and of course is trying to be the loving helpful H he has never really been. I guess I am just scared to get a D because I wonder if I will regret it later. I know I do not want