How many are both OW and BS?

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Registered: 08-08-2005
How many are both OW and BS?
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Fri, 05-08-2009 - 1:08pm

we had a cl once who was both an OW and a BS. just curious how many others are around.

Mrs.

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Registered: 06-12-2007
Fri, 05-08-2009 - 3:14pm

I was the

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Registered: 12-30-2008
Fri, 05-08-2009 - 7:39pm
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Edited 10/8/2009 8:16 pm ET by goblinqueen79
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Registered: 06-12-2007
Fri, 05-08-2009 - 10:15pm

I think there is a starting point for every OW, and somewhere along that line is hurt. I think my distrust of men started with my childhood. I saw my mother get cheated on...so my natural reaction was no man will ever do that to me. I was like I will never let anyone get that close to my heart. I loved my husband, but I didn't want to set myself up to be hurt. So, when I met the OM that was my way of protecting myself but I loved my husband so much I agreed to work on my marriage and then when he returned to the states that was when he broke the news to me about the OW.


So, I was glad in a way that I did cheat because if I hadn't..... it would have made what he did that much more harder for me to forgive.


However......part of me wonders what I would have done if he would have told me about the other woman before he left. Would I have ended my marriage and been with the other guy.....I guess I will never know.

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Registered: 03-08-2005
Sat, 05-09-2009 - 11:10pm

I am both and not proud of it.