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how many men are on here?
| Thu, 07-29-2010 - 5:57pm |
just curious, its hard to tell sometimes in the posts whether female or male.
may as well ask another question while I am at it...
Men, when you know your AP is crazy about you and is insecure for reasons that she does not need to be, but she can't help it... and you know that she needs alot of reassurance, why can't you give it? just a tiny little text saying you are thinking about them. I hate when more than 2 days pass and I don't hear from AP... but last night finally a text came with some reassurance and so today I feel better.. but felt awful the last few days...its so frustrating... he is not being mean on purpose, I know that... but I think it is mean when he knows I need reassurance.... soooooooooo frustrating... thoughts?

devious_d...i guess those are the highs and lows....affairs are a roller coaster ride and i'm sorry you have to go days without your ap contacting you..but it would seem that you hearing from him is a high, then to not hear from him would make you feel low....then you hear from him again, it feel good...because you know he still cares or at least still wants to talk....i don't think that is just in affairs though..i think that happens in normal relationships..i've been in normal traditional boyfriend/girlfriendship type situations where i didn't hear from boyfriend for a day or so just because he was busy or working 2 jobs..(im referring to a past relationship in 2005-2006) and i would feel highs and lows....i think that in affairs those in affairs are just hypersensitive because there is already so much involved in them..like both or one of the APs already having partners..and those in affairs minds wander..like why isn't he/she contacting me? is he/she with the spouse? or do they have another ap, are they with the spouse having a good time? i would say in these instances, do you, find things you like and relax..for me it's cool because i hear from him a lot...but i also have 4 good girlfriends that are demanding of girlfriend time at least once a week, well it helps that we're all single too and enjoy the same things...i have a grown son who i am trying to spend loads of time wth before he goes off to college, i love getting my hair and nails done, shopping, searching out the latest fashions, reading, studying different things..and i have a demanding job where sometimes i have to work for 12 or more hours a day....
i would suggest..that if this is your aps
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss