How many people know about your A?

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Registered: 05-25-2010
How many people know about your A?
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Thu, 06-24-2010 - 6:47pm

I know its probably best that no one knows, but 4 people know about my A. None of them know him or have seen him except my sister. She met him the first time we dated 8 years ago and we were both single then. So, my mother and my sister know.

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Registered: 12-03-2009
Fri, 06-25-2010 - 2:38pm

3 of my closest girlfriends.

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Fri, 06-25-2010 - 3:16pm
As far as I know, AP hasn't told anyone, either.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 09-29-2008
Fri, 06-25-2010 - 3:33pm
My sister and best friend know. They are both in affairs also. We sometimes cover for each other...i know it's bad. He says he has not told a soul. My H and his W both speculate. All and I mean all of our coworkers suspect and have accused us but now it has been so many years no one says a word. Friends on both sides suspect but don't really say a thing. Weird I know. It has been going on for so long (13 years)I think everyone just ignores it.
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Registered: 05-25-2010
Fri, 06-25-2010 - 6:15pm
Ok, Whew! Im glad Im not the only one, I felt like I broke a major rule. It stops here, I wont tell anyone else.
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Registered: 05-06-2010
Fri, 06-25-2010 - 10:34pm

I'm in an LDA with AP. My family & I migrated to another country some years back.

We agreed to tell a couple of people about our A just in case something bad happens that we won't be able to inform the other.
AP told his brother and gave him my mobile number. I've never met his brother.
I told my daughter (she's 21) and now she has AP's mobile number too (I know, I know.... loooooong story). She doesn't know AP personally.

One other person who knows is a friend of mine who happens to be in an A too. She works in another country and her family lives in the country where we both come from.

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Registered: 01-12-2008
Fri, 06-25-2010 - 11:56pm

"I told two of my best friends who I knew wouldn't judge me on it, would offer support, and could keep a secret."

See, I just don't understand this reasoning. If YOU can't keep it a secret why would you assume/believe your friends would. No matter HOW good a friend they are.
(I'm using "You" in a general sense here; this is not directed to anyone specific).


I've just never understood asking someone to keep a secret that I couldn't. It's like..."I HAVE to tell you something because I can't keep it a secret, but YOU have to."
I don't get it.

This stuff is just too juicy NOT to pass on. I trust NO ONE. I have friends I would trust with my life, the life of my kids; but NOT with my secret. That just would not be fair to them.

JMHO

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Registered: 02-09-2010
Sat, 06-26-2010 - 1:21am

Not a soul. Neither my OP or I have told anyone - which for us is kind of amazing. We both love to talk and I know I'm bad about keeping secrets.

I think my coworker may suspect, and I KNOW she would not be surprised if she found out. The only reason I think she might suspect is that I get calls and leave the area to talk. Funny thing is that she's gay and her old partner cheated on her and she said something once about it when I think I may have given her reason to suspect - and she was basically trying to say it really hurt her and things along the lines of ...''don't do it if you're thinking, but I'm not sure so I'm throwing it out there''. All she knows is that I have an old boyfriend who calls me a lot. She's uber cool though so if she did find out, I know she wouldn't tell anyone at work.

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Sat, 06-26-2010 - 1:26am
"Ok, Whew! Im glad Im not the only one, I felt like I broke a major rule. It stops here, I wont tell anyone else."

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Registered: 05-19-2010
Sat, 06-26-2010 - 3:15pm

No one,hopefully.Sometime ago someone saw us hugging and what not.

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